Worry and Love Cannot Occupy the Same Space by Cyndi
One critical Spiritual Teaching I would love to imprint into every mother’s heart (and everyone else for that matter) is simple, “Worry and Love do not intermix”. Where there is pure love there can be no worry. And where worry blankets a situation, the Power of Love takes a back seat.
Don’t believe me? You don’t have to take my word for it. Instead, why don’t you take the next few minutes and work with the following exercise.
Step One: Invoking the Power of Love
Sit comfortably and begin thinking about something that is easy to love. For this exercise pick something that you are not currently involved in worrying about. One of my favorites is a memory of baking with Grandma. Take the time to remember how everything felt, the smiles, the laughter. Really get into the exercise until such time that you feel the opening in your heart, the smile on your face. Note how you feel, the energy, the power that is accessible to you in this moment.
Step 2: Worry
OK, put Step 1’s memory aside and pick from the lists of worries. For most of us this part of the exercise is easier. Allow yourself to remember why your worried and recount to yourself all the reasons to worry. When you got a good worry going, step back for a moment and check in with the body. How does it feel? Does it feel powerful, capable of handing whatever comes it’s way? Compare this feeling to the one you had during step one. Which do you prefer? Which would you prefer to send out into the world?
Step 3: Go back to the love memory
I don’t ever want to leave you with that worry feeling. Take a minute now and bring back that memory that filled you with so much love, so much power. Allow it to fill you again, and again take the time to notice how it feels.
Many of us have been taught that worry is what you do when you love someone. In fact, what worry does is engorge the situation with more fear, which circulates more thoughts of worry, which in turn invests the whole situation in more fear, which (you get the idea). This worry energy weighs the situation down, it clouds your reasoning mind and greatly decreases your power to resolve any situation.
So what should you do when worry strikes? Well, you can always use love. And if you enjoyed the exercise above then you will really love this suggestion. You can take that worry and place it right in the middle of your love memory. For instance, say that you can invoke the feeling of love by remembering how you loved to bake cookies with Grandma and your big worry is how to pay the mortgage payment due yesterday. You can take that mortgage due notice and bring it into Grandma’s kitchen. See it there, right next to the big bowl of dough, covered in flour. And if the worry energy tries to invade the love memory, let Grandma’s smile shine down on you, reminding you that Grandma’s love solves every problem.
One Spiritual Teaching worth practicing every day.
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Yes, I belive it
Wow, thanks Cyndi.
This is really cool and really useful. I have been battling with just this aspect. How to bring love into my emotions at will. I know that love displaces all forms of negativity, and your exercise makes it so easy. This has brought a huge smile to my face and made my day…
I was tought that energy goes where attention flows – and this is a fantastic way of bringing that into practice.
When you worry about a situation – you give it energy, make it more. (More debt, less money)
When you love a situation – you give it energy, make it more. (more love, more smiles)
I know which one I’ll choose!
You article above is interesting and I was going along with it right up to the last sentence, “And if worry energy tries to invade the love memory, let Grandma’s smile shine down on you, reminding you that Grandma’s love solves everything.” However, Madeleine’s comment fits for me much better. ” When you love a situation – you give it energy, make it more. As simplistic as this second statement is behind it is a very complex ownership process also this fits extremely well with quantum physics and the reason why positive or love focused energy can actually change the future. Madeleine’s statement is qualified with a ‘because’. Grandma’s story is sweet and romantic, unfortunately it does not give me any reason to believe it. Perhaps a different metaphor would better demonstrate this interesting point of worry and love.
My wife complains occasionally that I don’t worry enough about her if she is on the road late at night or on busy motorways(freeways), jet planes or whatever. She has never quite understood that I can open intuitive links with love where they mostly remain blocked if I were to worry. Intuitively I know she is safe. If there is a problem I can move energy with love and not with worry. I can make things happen with love and go nowhere with worry.
Good point Cyndi. Thank you for the opportunity to comment.
I found what Cyndi said lovely and I understand what she means. What Robert said was so interesting. I chose that path also, I see myself falling into worry at times about a loved one but I remember that I have the power to infuse the situation with love and therefore empower it, I can feel the surge of power, of course it’s very subtle also, I love that knowing. My husband does the same as you Robert (not worrying), he told me once that he could feel my concern (he was working up on the roof) and it nearly made him loose his balance…I didn’t do it again! Now I support his faith in his ability to walk like a mountain goat on hights etc.
How amazing that we all have this power and a shame we don’t use it more.
Love and light.
Thanks for a great article. I come from a long line of worriers. It is something that I have to work on every day. I have also found it very helpful to redirect my worrying to a happy thought. It does take some effort, but gets easier with practice.
Fascinating article. Reminds me of a bumper sticker I saw on a car last time I was in the USA “what would love do?” Imagine a world where the first question we ask ourselves before we act is “what would love do?”
Thank you for providing thought provoking material to enrich my day.
Excellent!!! A simple solution to help one feel better fast! I love it.
It was a light bulb moment to finally know how I can use thoughts of love to drown-out feelings of worry and fear. Thanks!
Great inspiration! In Enthusiology 101(tm), I find it helps folks to put worry in its proper place by discussing the topic F.E.A.R.2.S. = Finding Every Acceptable Reason to Succeed. It is well known that many minutes of this wonderful life we’ve been given are wasted with worry a/k/a fear. Thanks for sharing wisdom through your posts!
Thanks… what else can be said…
Thank you, Cyndi, for opening this discussion. I have never considered myself a fearful or worry filled person but am beginning to realize I merely suppress conscious awareness of these feelings. They are still, however, limiting me. While I am resistent to focusing on the worry, even if only briefly, focusing on the power of love to change things is very helpful. A memory of love might be helpful for getting things into perspective, but perhaps the real power of this concept is to bring the memory forward into a conscious recognition and appreciation of currently existing love. The greatest power of love to exorcise fear would be in the now.
Thanks Cyndi for this short but very precise article. I just got hit by worthless anxiety about my unrequited love but then what you’ve shared perfectly solved my worries and fears. May more people be healed emotionally by this method.