Why Does the Same Thing Keep Happening to Me by Sasha Xarrian
Have you ever had one thing after another go wrong and wondered what was going on or why it was happening to you? It seems like most of us have this happen every once in a while. When it happens to me – - whoops – - I mean when I create a series of events like that, I have to stop and take stock of what I am thinking, saying and believing.
Then, of course, I need to reroute my brain.
When I moved to Nevada I went to a dentist that must have been the worst one in the world. Problem after problem developed because of his mistakes. And because of it I became rather leery when it came to trying another one.
I am the type of person who researches everything to death and that is what I did before beginning major work (and expense) with the next dentist.
Once gain, this dentist began making mistakes and having things go wrong with my dental work and every time I would drive to an appointment I would “try†and direct that everything would go perfectly.
It usually didn’t.
Now, here I am in Texas and again I need a dentist. I researched dentists as usual, chose one and went to my first appointment yesterday.
I couldn’t believe the amount of mistakes she made. She even would say, “Oh I just made a huge mistake!â€
Consequently, as I was driving home after two hours of being in the dental chair, I had to think to myself, “What is going on with me and dentists?â€
The first thing that came to my mind was the fact that I had been married to one for seventeen years and that wasn’t the greatest experience in the world. Thinking about that made me laugh because I realized I had already started out with fairly negative feelings about dentists.
Then I realized that over time I have come to almost expect a disastrous experience whenever I visit a dentist.
And, as my children will attest to, I love telling stories. So, I tend to relate experiences repeatedly to others either with drama or laughter. I am a rather passionate person.
Thinking about all of this yesterday I realized that I was giving the negative thoughts and fears energy that kept getting stronger.
My belief was almost absolute that I could or would have a disastrous experience when I went to a dentist.
Consequently, as I “tried†to direct the experience to something completely opposite to my inner beliefs, my directing didn’t work. As I “tried†to believe that I would now create a different – better – experience, it didn’t work either.
So, what I have done to “fix†the problem, is to begin giving energy to the belief that I those experiences are in the past – - and will remain there – - forever.
I will not discuss any of these negative experiences with anyone.
And I will not give energy to them through my thoughts. (I just corrected the previous sentence because what I originally wrote was, “I will ‘try’ and not give energy . . .â€). The way I will do this is to stop the thoughts that want to keep going over everything the dentist did that was wrong, thoughts about how this will now cause my next visit to a new dentist more time in the dental chair, thoughts about how I keep having these bad experiences, wondering why this keeps happening, and being angry or frustrated because of it.
Taking it one step further, I will laugh when I think about these experiences. There is always an element of humor in them.
I have decreed that I will now find and be led to the best dentists in the world and their hands will perform magic in my mouth!
I already feel so much better having decided on these actions and I have already begun taking them.
What about you?
Do you seem to have a recurring experience that you would rather not have?
There is a reason this is happening. And you have the power to stop them.
Implement the steps that I have. Here they are again:
1. State and believe that the series of negative experiences are now in your past and you are finished with them. They will never be part of your present or future again.
2. Never mention these past experiences again – to anyone. And no story-telling.
3. Distract your mind when you begin thinking about them.
4. Stop wondering why it is happening to you. Stop lamenting. Stop trying to figure out what went wrong. Stop being angry. Stop being frustrated. Vanish all thoughts about the situation or fear that it may recur.
5. Every time one of the preceding thoughts pops into your mind, laugh out loud!
6. Direct and decree what you will experience in the future.
Having one or two of these recurring beliefs and experiences in our lives can hinder our ability to create because they tend to make us angry, frustrated and discouraged. And as you already know, when you are angry, frustrated or discouraged it is much more difficult to powerfully and consistently create. So snap to attention next time you see this happening in your life, reread this article, implement everything and instantly become more powerful!
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Thank you for the ideas and the book Sasha.
A friend of mine always says ‘Expect Success’. It’s good advice and it’s relevant to every aspect of your life, and I think it fits nicely with what you have written here.
Hi Sasha,
If you keep manifesting the same thing over and over then you need to change what you are doing. Why? because if we continually do the same thing, we get the same result.
You know what I would do differently? Stop researching, analysing and thinking. Go with your intuition, instincts, gut feelings, trust your heart to direct you to a good dentist.
Many people have a lot of fear around dentists (myself included) because we anticipate pain and we don’t want to get hurt. But you always get what you expect, so I have adopted a habit now of going to the dentist with my focus firmly fixed on expecting a good experience and a good outcome. Hey, it works for me!
Have a nice day, and lots of love from London, England
Dave
P.S. You say you don’t want to discuss or give energy to your negative thoughts any more, but you have done exactly that by writing this article! Just don’t go there!
Hi Sasha
I think reading your email or enzine or whatever it is it brings to mind a few years ago,when I was manager of our local football team. A saying I use to use is,where the thought goes the energy flows,instead of distracting your mind or indeed distracting your mind with thought that are the opposite to what your are thinking creats a sense of balance, which to my mind is most important.
Have a balanced outlook
John
this is wonderful stuff… u no i went to the dentist about 3 years ago, but the experience keeps playing in my mind like it happened yesterday.. i now say its over, its dead, it will neva occur in my mind or in reality again….
Hi Sasha
This is me and I don’t want to experience bad things anymore. I am 33 and it always felt that bad things just happens to me and I am the only one always staying behind, well today I made up my mind and went through your 1-6 five times so yes I expect a better me starting right now this moment.
Thanks for your work and thanks for sharing your family with us.
Love
Joleen
I do understand this concept & by doing this I feel like I am ignoring reality, what is in front of me. So “pretending” that it did not happen or that it does not bother me? Then the concept of I make my own reality?……..any comments on this? Confused
Hi Gina;
I understand your confusion – I have often spent lots of time and energy invested in those events that have caused me some degree of suffering.
And then I began to understand that I always have the choice as to where I place my concentration. By deciding that the blessings in my life are more important then those events that are “challenges” – I have found that I spend much more time in peace and joy.
It’s not a matter of pretending that those things didn’t happen. It’s more about deciding that they aren’t what I choose to invest my energy in.
Am I making sense? If not – let me know. This one little shift in focus can change everything
In Joy
Cyndi