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Automatic writing provides a wonderful window for viewing and processing beliefs held in the subconscious part of our minds. It allows us to bypass our conscious narrow view of the world and our beliefs about our place within it. The following paragraphs give you a glimpse of how I have used this technique to Release my Fear.
It was September 11, 2001 and I had just found out that the World Trade Centers had been destroyed. Though no longer living within view of the towers, my family still lived close and I had spent many hours within the towers, working as a Chase Manhattan Bank Teller during summers while in college.
The news shook me to the core. Though not on the front lines, within hours I sunk into a state of almost constant fear. I hid when I heard a car backfire. I feared that my water was poisoned and I was constantly looking over my shoulder, waiting for the next bomb to drop.
And then I took up paper and pen and I began to write. I wrote and wrote without censor and without stopping. I turned off the television and I wrote some more. I went to work and in spare moments I wrote. I took care of my two babies and I wrote.
In a period of about 36 hours I filled two notebooks. I did not censor and I did not reread. I just poured it onto the paper. My fears, my hopes, my thoughts and my feelings. Sometimes I wrote fast and sometimes slow. Sometimes the words were so big they covered three lines and at other times they were so small they were hard to see.
And then, almost without warning, it was done. I had gotten it all out and it was gone. Not only was the fear gone, it was replaced with the most splendid sense of peace and connection. I knew, and I knew that I knew, that all was well and that we were all safe and somehow connected. For about three days I floated through my day, loving life and everyone I met. I could see the Divine in everyone and everything and it was wonderful.
Slowly the euphoria left, but the inner knowing that life is not at all what it seems has not. I have never since that day fallen into a fear state that comes close to what I experienced for those few hours after the Trade Centers went down. And the experience of connection and peace that follows has been enough to keep me motivated and driven to learn how to step into that state at will, and to teach others how to do the same.
So, the next time fear strikes, pick up the pen and write it away. You will be glad you did.
Cyndi
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Hi,
I dissolve my fear by changing the energy to love and freeing it. I do this by transmuting it through conscious presence by embracing it and feeling through it…..it works everytime just become present when the fear emotion is in your body, activated by your mind and just inhale, hold for a couple of seconds and release, fully feeling any feelings….after a few seconds the intensity of the fear simply diminishes until you wonder why you were in fear in the first place…. did i win
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How do I release my fear ?
Let’s start qith quick and simple steps…
Firstly, Fear is normal, but not to indulge in it and let it guide you though. We arrive at a fight or flight situation.
I simply let the fear in and accept it, but only up for a minute (depending if I need to deal with like NOW or not). If not right away, I let it integrate my entire body. I then take three deep breathes by the nose and face whatever is for me to face. If I need to deal wiht it NOW, I suppress it from my mind by focussing on my breathing and visualizing what I should do in order to deal with it… and will get back to it later in meditation in order to release it.
Sometimes, we simply need to get out of the situation right away, and not think but use our instinct in whichever situation.
Daniel
Never had too many fears until I became a mother. Then I was scared and worried about everything. What if I got into a wreck what if I died. Who would raise my son. It changed how I live more cautiouse of my souroundings ect. I pray everyday for our wellbeing and safety. I just started to feel more positive and less fearful of what could happen. I still think bad things but when I do I ask for quidence on my issues and to help me focuse on the positive.
scherie 40 from florida
and my 3yrld son.
The absolutely best method I have found to rid myself of fears has been EFT. I have used it to eliminate fear of success, fear of failure, fear of those I love dying or being injured, and many other irrational fears. I have also used EFT to help others overcome fears (of heights, and of public speaking). It’s a profoundly powerful tool and amazingly quick – better than any other method I’ve come across. It’s simple (and free) to learn, you can self-apply it in situations where you feel overwhelmed by fear and be free of that fear in a matter of minutes.
Fear is the product of your mind, so to dissolve fear just stop thinking (by the mean of meditation: Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths. Then become aware of the inner energy field of your body or just your hands or other part of your body. Do not think about it feel it! Be still and present.)
I used to be agoraphobic. I learned to breath through my heart( check out HeartMath) and the fear just disappeared! It is rare that I feel fear anymore. I truly believe that I am safe and that a loving Universe protects me.
fear is and can be a very powerful emotion, its has been with me numerous times (believe me)and i have used loads of differant ways to release and let go, the one that works the most effective to date for me is logic, common sense and knowing that everything i have and am in my life is brought about by myself and my own thoughts my own being, so when i get that feeling i trust in the universe and more importantly myself knowing i am the one creating and reflecting i am the one in control of me, although you cannot banish fear completely in todays world as fear serves its purpose in warning of dangers etc and in some ways helps us grow, so i suppose the key is to know who and what your about, and the rest will take care of itself, but i do often imagine the world with out fear and this is going to sound crazy but i fear it? x
I am having to face the worst fear a mother can ever confront right now since my daughter has cancer. I actually use several methods for releasing fear, before going to bed I ask the angels to take my fear and transmute it so that I can sleep peacefully…they are very obliging that way. I start my day by meditating and bringing in the light of my higher self. While in this high vibrational state I think of all the things I have to be grateful for and send blessings out to others. I also use EFT to tap away the fears and tap in peace, many times I will do this mentally during a meditation with wonderful results. I use all of these methods to keep my thoughts in the light where fear cannot dwell.
I talk it over with my wife. We can talk for hours about what worries us and then realize we still have each other and our 4 wonderful kids.
I also think of those less fortunate then me.
It is Gratitude I guess.
I too journal, though not quite daily.
I had an epiphany and made a conscious choice to live without fear or regrets as much as possible (for a human).
I decided that if we are having a physical life in order to teach and learn life lessons and that when we are done, we return ‘home’, that place where our souls reside (call it heaven, after life, etc).
With that premise, I discovered that if the worst thing that can happen to a human is to die, which means going ‘home’, there wasn’t much left to fear.
Removing the fear of death is very liberating!
Without a doubt, EFT is the finest tool for fear release. That said…learn to talk to your body. Massage the area where you are feeling fear and say,” It’s okay,calm down, breath… relax your okay and I love you.” Keep repeating till you feel yourself slow down. Because guaranteed…everything is racing. Teach yourself to walk at the pace God would. It’s definately slower.LOL As you talk to your body more and more there becomes a connection. It does hear you and it will do whatever you ask. You have to ask. It’s your vehicle. It loves you…learn to love it back. Your a team…not separate. Fear is always a separation from love,yourself or source. So you can also say’ Hey what am I separating myself from, I love me!”
The releasing methods that I use vary but I always begin by acknowledging the fear. I say to it, “Yes, I see you, and you are real to me.” I accept and welcome it. That seems to create the space within me to begin the work of releasing. Sometimes the acceptance of fear is enough to dissipate it. If the fear is still there it is always weaker after accepting it.
Second, I’ll focus on the fear, and the associated emotions and body feelings that it generates, and then I’ll run through either:
- the “Sedona Method” questions (Could I release this? Would I release this? When?)
- or the Ho’oponopono statements that Joe Vitale mentions in his book Zero Limits. (I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. )
Each time I complete a cycle of the questions or statements I can easily feel that the fear has been lessened. The beauty is that I can do these exercises anywhere and anytime. (Information on both of these methods can be found in various places online.)
If there is still some sense of the fear after these exercises then I turn to Revision. I’ll focus again on the feelings and emotions generated from the fear, and then ask my subconscious mind to take me back to other experiences that I have had in my past that have generated these same feelings and emotions. Memories will start to come back, which I then write down. Then starting at the earliest memory I will first review the scene again, then suddenly shout (in my mind), “CANCEL THAT. DO NOT ACT ON THIS MEMORY. RELEASE IT. LET IT GO!” and I visualize the energy within those negative feelings breaking up and shooting out of me to the far ends of the universe. I’ll then alter the memory, changing it into a scene that generates the feelings that I would like to experience instead. I replay the scene a few times, each time adding more detail, making it brighter. I don’t watch myself, or see myself in the memory. I am acting it out. I am reliving the memory, buy now in a way that generates the feelings that I desire to have. When the revision feels right, I focus inward and say to myself, “This is how I want to respond to this kind of a situation.” I repeat the process with the other memories that I have written down. Lastly I will play out future scenes as well, all generating the desired feelings and emotions, and again affirming that this is how I want to respond. I breath it all in and feel it being a part of who I am now.
Revision takes a little longer, but works every time.
I use these methods not just to release fear, but to release or change anything in my life. And have seen many miracles. I’ve seen them heal myself and others. They have increased my feelings of abundance and therefore improved my personal finances. I have seen myself and others make huge changes in both habit and personality. And I have come to own my power, to recognize who I am, and that I am not really limited in any way. Am I perfect? Do I have everything that I want? Would I consider myself a master manifestor? No, not yet. But, I am happy. I feel that I have become more loving and less judgmental. And through releasing I always see more things to release. And then I am happier still. Life has become a beautiful cycle of continual growth for me.
Embrace your fear learn to love it Fear is change Whenever you go through a change follow your emotions for emotions are your way to your spiritual realms. We learn from love kindness joy etc. We grow from fear. There is so many messages from fear we need to listen and enjoy the ride
I dissolve my fear by enter to the ‘zero zone’ that makes me feel free from all kind of emotion. I feel the ‘place’ of the zone is between the range of relaxation wave. After I find the zone, I automatically become feel freedom and the fears are dissapeared.
A few years ago, I trained as a Certified Firewalk Instructor, helping people overcome their fears by taking off their shoes and socks and walking over a sidewalk of glowing red coals. Part of this psychology is accepting the worst possible scenario, i.e. you could fall on your face and be called ‘coal-face’ the rest of your life. Once you refuse to accept a negative outcome as the most likely result, you understand that the only thing you have to fear is fear itself, as a limiting, destructive emotion that is nothing more than defensive posturing against a negative expectation, so the best way to release fear is simply to believe in a positive outcome, rather than a negative one. If this is difficult, you must look at other issues, such as your self-esteem, that prompt you to envision a negative future rather than a successful one.
HOW DO I RELEASE FEAR?
First of all I did not know how to release fear until the day I realized that contrary to most beliefs about fear – fear was my best friend.
People say to me, ” how can fear be a friend?” “it’s easy,” I say. Once I had analyzed what fear was, the solution was simple.
“So what is fear?” they say. “Fear is not knowing and the sensation or feeling of fear is my higher intelligence telling me that there is some information I need to gather before going any further.”
To explain this does take considerable time. So that there are no misleading assumptions I will do my best to be brief and clear at the same time.
I will give a couple of an untold variety of examples. But please, the potential is enormous so I shall be glad if the reader does not set up any limiting beliefs concerning this fear management system.
Part of my job had been to search for contracts and submit competitive quotes with detailed specifications. This line of business was potentially very dangerous and so safety and detailed planing was crucial. Getting the contracts did at times seemed almost too easy. The fear factor arose when we had to put substance to our promises. Often we were working in completely unknown territory. The health and safety of workers and the public was a major concern. At times the fear could be enormous at different levels of the work force as progress eased forward. As contract manager the responsibility always rested on my shoulders to deal with any fear issue whether real or imaginary.
The process was always the same and it never failed. It consisted of assessing- ‘WHAT DO WE KNOW’ and ‘WHAT DO WE NOT KNOW ABOUT.’When I found that fear is in what is not know or assumed but not confirmed that the solutions came and the fear disappeared.
Find what reliable information was missing. Once that information becomes available the fear has done its job. Safe and secure plans can be made and set in motion and everyone wonders what the fuss was all about.
To demonstrate this I note the following true story.
One day I was running a leadership course and the objective of this exercise was to find what people were fearful of and find how to deal with the fear. This particular exercise was climbing 30 metre trees right to the top. One of the course members was a mountaineer and had been to the top of K2. Other than an apple tree in his parents garden he had never been up a tall tree. We were about 10 metres off the ground when he froze and would not go up or down. This man was in a climbing harness and safety ropes just like the ones he used for mountaineering. There was no way he was going up or down one inch.
I noticed he was actually trembling and could not, given his climbing experience, understand what could be so wrong. Knowing that the words I used could make a great difference, I asked him what was happening? Straight away he replied, “The tree is moving.” “What is wrong with the tree moving, you are an experienced mountain climber?” I asked.He said, mountains don’t move.” “Certainly”, I agreed. At that point he had his arms wrapped around the tree trunk, which was at that point a good 15 to 20 inches across its diameter.
Then I realized that what he was doing unconsciously was confusing rocks moving to the tree he was suspended from. That is when a mountain moves i.e. a rock fall it is a deadly situation. Whereas trees remain standing upright because they are flexible and can sway to release wind or other pressures without uprooting or breaking. The fact that the tree was swaying gently in response to our climbing motion, was a sign it was safe to climb. Once I filled in the missing information he was able to make his way down to the ground unaided. But took time to reform internal references before being able to climb the tree again.
Another simple exercise I discovered quite by chance during the early 1970′s was when dealing with emotional fear. During my college days I had done some silly or embarrassing things, some of which had become emotional blocks and I dealt with them by stuffing them away somewhere out of sight. From time to time these emotions would surface and I would hide them away again trying to ignore them because I was frightened to go there. This went on for some years until they kept surfacing and one day I had had enough.
Following my intuition and figuratively speaking, I grabbed one of the emotional problems in my hands. “Ok” I said aloud, “right lets sort you out once and for all” I placed the emotion an an imaginary pedestal in front of me.”OK lets see exactly what you are,” looking at the emotion on the pedestal,I walked around it and examined it in fine detail. The experience was challenging but I was determined to be rid of it. I was examining my own actions that I was not terribly pleased about. Then I lifted the emotion that had the form of a statue about 2 feet high and 6 to 8 inches wide and by the way it had the sensation of being absolutely solid and quite heavy. I looked at the top and turned it upside down, examined the underneath then turned it around and around until there was nothing about it that I had not seen, recognized and understood. Later I realized that I was actually examining and taking ownership of my earlier embarrassing actions.
Having done that I said to myself, “so what do I do now?” There was silence. Then an intuitive notion came into my mind. WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS? Rhetorically speaking I repeated the question. “Who is responsible for this?” I said aloud, “I am of course.” As I said “I am,” the statue of the emotion seemed to explode into a bright light and vanished. Following this I experienced an enormous adrenalin rush and felt as though I was walking on air for an hour or two later.
I used the same technique with other emotional fears and also with some personal fears with great effect. I have used this exercise with many coaching clients also with amazing results.
The detail of this exercise is not so important as the principle, so use your imagination and follow your intuition.
Robert Denton ASR-KEY Therapy and ASRD Coaching
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When fear strikes, I console myself that it is not permanent, that it will blow over and I put trust that with prayer, I can overcome it.
I believe that I have been put here for a reason and that there is protection in what I believe in.
However, the process between the beginning of fear and the acceptance and disolvement is painful and sometimes really terrifying, depending on the extent of the fear.
I would however, welcome a more positive and brave outlook in dealing with fear.
Whenever I experience fear–I say aloud or within my mind-”I am grounded and surrounded in protective light.” I then focus all of my attention on the soles of my feet and allow them to soften in to the earth and feel the nourishing vibrations of the earth’s energy pulse upward through them. My entire body begins to soften and drop towards the earth. I then envision swirling clouds of white light rise up from the earth and encircle me all the way above my crown. I feel my auras strengthen and the presence of my guides and angels is near. Grounding and surrounding first brings me present, and then reconnects me to my true self and all beings. Works every time!!
I imagine that fear, or any other negative thought tied to emotion, is the letter N colored in black that are in my subconscious bank. This way I can see it as an object that I can remove. Whenever fear comes up, the black N surfaces and I respond by saying I love you black N, you are here to teach me something I was not aware of. Thank You for being here. I simply shower all of my N’s with love and they dissipate, because I understand that fear, or negative thoughts subside when confronted with love.
i think of fear as a response mechanism so i aknowledge it and look at it from a more centred/grounded point of view perhaps in the comfort/security of my home or imagining i am in such a place then analyse it and see where there really needs to be fear and where there is no need for the fear i just “take the bull by the horns” so to speak. fear can help steer us away from potential threats but it can also go too far in that we miss everything so we have to look at it in a logical way. then act so..
I banish fear by simply not thinking about or even considering the possibility of failure. The other thing I am careful of, is to not discuss my plans prior to carying them out. Experience taught me that there are many nay sayers out there who delight in trying to burst your bubble. They will infuse you with the feeling of certain failure. Listening to the negativity will destroy your hopes and dreams.
Do not mistake this for carelessness. Once you have set your goal,be sure to carefully plan the steps on the path to success. Be sure to determine the best way to reach that goal. Then just go for it.
I banish fear by not thinking about or even considering the possibility of failure. Experience taught me to keep my plans to myself. Once others know about them, you will be bombarded by nay sayers who delight in bursting other individuals’ bubbles. You will suddenly be innundated with “reasons” why it won’t work. They will expound upon why failure is certain. listening to their diatribes will turn your positive energy into negativity, fear and certain failure.
Please do not confuse this with complete carelessness. Be sure to carefully plan each step to be taken on the way toward reaching your goal. Determine the best way to accomplish what you wish to achieve. Then: JUST GO FOR IT. May the force be with you.
The way I release my fear is by going down to my knees and surrender to God’s will and share my burden with Him. I ask for protection and visualize a golden stream of spiritual light coming from the Universe right down to the top of my head and opening like a dome that covers me from the top of my head all down to my feet. I immediately feel God’s love for me and His protection, and then I know that everything will be fine. This is the way I protected my 7 year old son when we were celebrating Independence Day. Against my orders he ran into the crowd and suddenly a box of firecrackers exploded. A boy was killed and many were injured. My son had left minutes earlier and was perfectly happy when I found him after a while. May God guide and protect you all. Thank you for letting me share this experience with you.
They say that there is nothing to fear – but fear it’s self, the more you allow your mind to dwell on a fear the bigger and more difficult it becomes to get rid of – hence it makes you a prisoner
Fear has many disguises, from little worries right up to crippling irrational fears of about anything you could imagine
As to myself, mine comes in the guise of despondency , growing if allowed into a soul distorting monster
Shackling me with heavy chains of self doubt, dragging my free spirit crashing downwards
The only way I have been able to overcome this disabling sensation, is by taking deep breaths, and
holding them in while thinking of all those negative thoughts
Then with as much force as I can muster, expel them outwards with a explosive sound “Tee Char” or something similar
I repeat this process until all the negative thoughts have let go and my spirit once again can rise freely
I beleive the most important thing I would say is as follows:
I found a cloudy truth align in almost every confesion. However, the best of all was to reenlign with all the statements.
Thank you for the effort. I feel. I already have won. I am not afraid almost anymore.
God bless you,
A. M
Since the worst has already happened, and I survived, my structure for dealing with fear has to do with the recall of the worst thing
that can happen, which has already happened ( a near fatal collision with head injury )- many reprecussions. Therefore, for me, alrady having had the worst thig happen possible, makes the ensuing threat shrink in comparison. A lot of attitude training makes this a reasonable strategy. Works for me-the worst thing has already happened
I’m sensitive to energy around me, some nights I cant sleep because it bothers me so much. I get feelings of being watched and sometimes I go places and sense strong negative vibrations. I’ve learned that that the small visualization of white light surrounding me doesnt always seem to work because your mind can create any situation it needs to so that it can scare the crap out of you if it so chooses. I call my Angels near to me when I feel threatened with negative energy or I have a negative thought I cant seem to get rid of. I ask my Angels to remove certain thoughts and fears from me and ask them to protect the people I’m worried about and also ask them to surround my me or my home. I’m always protected, they always give you a small feeling that makes me smile to let you know they are there and that they love you. It helps me out a lot.
Fear is an emotion that does not feel good to me,and I have learned that anything that I put my attention on attracts more of the same.My lesson has been to catch myself as soon as possible when I have that feeling of fear and move my attention away from there and on to a thought that feels good.
The more time and attention I put on a thought the more energy I give it and the greater chance for that thought to manifest in my physical life.I have a saying that goes:-”Stand guard at the doorway of your mind and only allow in the thoughts that you wish to have manifest”
Hi: I have been dealing on a day basis with my fears,but something that realy work for me is to understand what are the real sources of that fear,so,first af all Ido some profund breading till I keep relaxed and calm then I think in what realy is the situation that Ican´t deal with, I write on small paper things that realy bothering me and I can´t carry, then I pray to lord asking for serenity for things that I can not change,courage to change the things I can and wisdom to see the difference. Then I took the paper and I burn it letting those things go away, and i do it every day with all my fears,negative thougths and resents that I kept inside me.
I release my fear by the best thing that ever happened to me: EmoTrance. With EmoTrance you localise where you feel an emotion (in this case fear) in your body. Then you focus on this feeling intending it to soften and to flow. With your intention and with your hands you assist this blockage to become softer and to start to flow again, all the way out of your body until the emotion/fear is completely resolved and transformed in a much better feeling. EmoTrance means transforming emotions. And that is what it does. If you want to know more just look at http://www.emotrance.com and if you’re dutch you can look at my website http://www.emotrance.nl.
Quite some time ago I was involved in a collission in So. Lake Tahoe
that resulted in a frontal head contusion which was accomanied by deramatic, fearful scenarios. Time was the only healer in this case; although I listened to as many high quality mind retaining tapes, at the time, that I could find. To shorten this story, the application
that I apply that leads to physical, mental, and emotional healing from fear involves constructive use of reason and imagination. The worst that can happen has already happened and I can handle disadvantages much more readily now.
Well, today has been a totally amazing day and i can’t believe getting this message.The last few days have been unsettling for me and i would like to think of myself as being a positive person and despite this I allowed the negative energy in, that fear thing which means False Evidence Appearing Real, and i thought why am i allowing this. Well last night i had had enough and i said right universe i am handing over my problems for you to sort out .
so this morning believe it or not i started writing my self concept essay for a course i am doing just now and i couldn’t believe how emotional it made me feel so much so i had to cry but it was great as it seemed to be a release of negative energy, and it gets better the problem i handed to the universe was sorted today by a phone call which i never ever thought i would have got, and then to top it of a very interesting person joined me today in an excellent conversation and we exchanged a lot of knowledge to each other.
So to top it of nothing is what it seems and as the songs goes the only way is up and a positive mind a healthy body
When I feel fear, I try and feel it, then I identify the source, and then visualise the word FEAR in my mind’s eye and put an X over it.
Then I surrender/eliminate it by focusing on thoughts that are more life-enhancing.
I release my fear by acknowledging it. Once I have acknowledged and identified the fact that I fear something I then push myself to work through or do the very thing that I fear. When possible I research the subject. When not possible, I just tell myself to trust myself, the universe, God, whatever it is you believe in. I convince myself and keep telling myself over and over, I am a most powerful being and there is nothing that I cannot do, there is nothing that I fear. I keep telling myself that over and over again with a smile on my face and breathing deeply inhaling and exhaling ever so slowly to keep myself from giving in to fear. I tell you when I do that including the deep loving breath, all my fears go away. I’ve done it to control my fear of heights – I now go hiking, help work on a roof, climb ladders, etc. I used it for my fear of the stage and public speaking – I used it when I gave my first bellydance performance in front a large live audience which included friends and family. It was great. Right up to the moment I was approaching the stage (backstage) I had to keep repeating those words and concentrate on my breathing and keeping my smile on my face. No one had a clue how scared I was. It was a great performance and a great audience. Since then I have given 3 more performances. I hope this helps.
I combine two methods, ‘EFT’ and ‘Ho oponopono’ to release all issues which at the root of an issue is usually fear.
EFT is emotional freedom technique and involves tapping through meridian points to release stored up issues that are caught in the physical body. The tapping releases this stored energy and clears the memory from the physical body. This can also very often clear physical ailments in the body too.
‘Ho oponopono’ involves accepting full responsibility for any situation that comes into your life by recognizing that the soul carries the memories at a subconscious level. At this subconscious level the body sends out vibrations that attract situations to us, for the purpose of realizing that we need to heal the root of an issue. Through a process of forgiveness of self, gratitude, love and knowing ourselves as deserving of this process we can clear issues trapped in the energetic body.
I devised a technique that combines EFT with Ho oponopono and added an interdimensional contract release affirmation that frees up several issues on various levels in one session. So far I have found this combination method to be one of the most powerfully effective processes to date.
I used to be afraid of spiders, hyperdermic needles and other peoples percieved attitudes.
The way I cured my fears was to confront them head on. I realised that what was going on in my wasn’t necessary or helpful to me or the situation. Infact it was causing me to get a bad reaction just from the fearful energy I was giving out.Spiders sense your fear just as people do. Things are only a threat if you allow that fearful thought to manifest itself in your mind….if you tense up before an injection anticipating that it is going to hurt then yes it does hurt…..it hurts like hell. If you run from the room screaming when you see a spider you have made your adrehaline skyrocket and flooded your system with cortisol…..If you tell yourself that someone disapproves of you, you are right they will because you’ve decided that what your internal critic says (its you who isn’t believing you are worth approving of not them)….. and so they don’t get a warm open smile from you they get your denfensiveness…..so your self esteem isn’t rewarded with acceptance but instead with a mirroring of your attitude. This goes not only from disapproval but for trust and every other emotion we feel…yes even for love.
Its not always easy to be that aware of whats going on and how you come over but with practice and awareness I am learning to get a better response…even from spiders!
I say these particular paragraphs to myself, usually out loud, as it helps to physically hear the words I think. These words are directed to my Higher Self and to the Beings of Light which are always with me.
“Inner spirit, beings of light locate the origin of my fear of ——. Take each level, area and aspect of my being to the origin of this vibrational blockage. Analyze and resolve it perfectly with universal Life Truth. I know it is only illusion which I fear.
Bring forward in time and heal every incident based upon the foundation of this error, according to God’s will; until I am filled, Now, with Light and Truth, forgiveness for myself for my erroneous perception and of every person, place and event which contributed to this erroneous fearful thought or emotion.
With total forgiveness and unconditional Love I delete this fear from my DNA, release it and let it go.
I feel abundant, opulent feelings of Love and Power!!! I allow every physical, mental, emotional and spiritual problem and inappropriate behavior based on the erroneous feelings to disappear.
Thankyou Spirit for coming to my aid and helping me attain the full measure of my true creation. Thankyou! Thankyou!! Thankyou!!!
Thankyou for all the blessings I have and for all those I am easily recieving Now!! Thine, not mine, will be done…
Try it for yourself this is very empowering…
Hello.
Yes, I’d like to start by saying a simple and common “hello”, just to proove myself that i’m not afraid anymore. You know, sometimes is just too hard, I mean too scary, to raise your eyes and face someone else…this is how scared I used to be – every single word I had had to say made me almost panic; but not anymore!
Just until a couple of years ago I felt like a shy and blushing teenager with great dreams, that’s true, but with even greater fears. I never really thought I had a problem, I liked to believe that I was a strong person and that I was pushing everybody away just as a consequence of my free spirit and independence. I would’ve never admited to myself or the anyone else how misrerable or lonely I felt and how easily I lost control over myself whenever something unexpected happened.
At some point, with all my faked optimism, my world crushed. I felt I was loosing it.Professionaly, socially, relationship…it was all a mess and I still couldn’t understand what I was doing wrong. Details about situations are not relevant, so I’ll pass them but the point is that one day I had a shock. Something minor happened, I don’t even remember well what it was, I only remember going through something that I had never felt before. I felt a painful bump in my chest, I couldn’t say a word, my mind was blocked and I could not respond to anything; it was not exactly a panic atack, but it was surely scary, as aferward I kept shivering an hour long.
That was it! Enough! I got home and I laid in my bed, I;ve hidden under the blanket, just like a little baby does. I think I spent a few hours in that position, asking questions, shivering and giving answers until I understood what was wrong with me. I faced all my fears, I’ve tortured myself in going deeper and deeper and analysing what was happening.I asked more and more questions, I imagined more and more real life situations until I could understand my own behaviour and I’ve decided it all has to stop. I imagined crushing all the walls around me, I imagined myself bursting out into everyones face and then I realised that the others were just as scared as I was. Enough! After a little more shivering, some more painful memories of despair I realised that there was no reason for it. I felt that there was no reason in what I was doing. So, i started to relax. I took the blanket off my face and I took a deep breath. I standed up and alowed myself to strenghten. And that was it…
Hello world! See me now.
That day I promissed myself I’ll never be in such a terrible situation again. No room for fear anymore. And I’m still keeping my promiss, all I had to do was to accept it and face it – after all, simply doing that shows some level of bravery, doesn’t it? Doing it once was enough to make me sure I can put up to it at any time and that makes me feel safe and strong.
Safe and Strong! Cheers
The most successful way I have of dealing with fear is just to be with it…. release the thought that produced the fear and just feel where it is in my body (usually a constriction either in my stomach or in my throat)
I beathe easily a few times and keep feeling where the feeling is moving. I notice after about 30 seconds that it moves around… it doesn’t stay in one place at all! I say to myself “fear is present, I can feel it, I can feel it moving around, lets see where it’s going now… hey this is quite enjoyable feeling where it’s moving to, it’s moving,it’s moving, wow!’ and I follow the emotion’s motion.
As I enjoy feeling the emotion moving in my body I notice another, more powerful emotion, usually starting in my chest close to my heart. This new wonderful, exhilarating emotion always gets bigger and bigger and I feel this new emotion moving through my body and getting stronger…and then I realise that the emotion of fear has been completely taken over by this new emotion of love.
After this my day usually gets better and better…!
I have noticed that the more often I do this exercise, the less I feel fear.
I was one of the thousands of military personnel that responded to the September 11 attack, talking about fear of not coming back. When I was told that I was leaving my mind starting working and telling me that it could be the possibility of not coming back to my love ones, well I started thinking positively telling my brain that I was coming back, myself and others leaving with me, I created an inner self and an inner world of my own, using it as a shield, if I had a bad day, I would go in my inner space that I created in my tent were I was staying and I was able to live each day at a time, not thinking about tomorrow because I was not sure if I had tomorrow, life was seeing in a totally different perspective and it became a goal of survival, nothing was going to stop me from coming back and so I did, but I learning how to managed my stress one of my ways was thru music and friends, my world at the time was my friends and my music, lots, lots of music, it calm me down and helped me to see straight and response to every situation.
It will be nice if I win something, but I just want to take the opportunity to thank you for letting me share my experience, just by doing that I consider myself to be a winner….. thanks
My own personal method of dealing with fear and anxiety came a very intuitive epiphany that I did not read from a book, nor learned from a course.
My method was nothing to do with any pretention of New-Age-ism or “sweetness and light” … it was to do with a power that we are all born with, and a way to acknowledge that power that maybe most people fail to recognise.
It is the power of one’s shadow side, detached recognition of all the aspects of ourselves that we are too afraid to see, and the LOVING it.
As an example, I used to suffer from crippling social anxiety. I would dread social situations, even just going for a casual drink with work colleagues, and I would either do my best to avoid those situations, or if I was in those situations, I would feel awkward as hell.
I would imagine that this whole cabal of people that existed in my mind would constantly criticise and berate me, which would then destroy my confidence in the outer world.
Then one day, before such a social event, I imagined what it would be like to actually LOVE and find an almost perverse pleasure in these negative imaginings … these voices that would put me down in my head. I don’t know how, this insight just came to me, there was no fancy NLP or hypnosis technique involved. I just imagined what it would be like to love the feeling of this imaginary crippling criticism, and the fear of what people in the outer world thought of me.
It made me laugh. I imagined what it would be like to be BIGGER than these inner negativities and fantasies. And when I went out with colleagues later in the evening, I felt more relaxed than I ever did before, and just expressed what was in my mind without having to think too much about what I was going to say to people.
Since then, my life has evolved in interesting ways, which led me to explore further the various fields and avenues of mind power and warrior philosophy.
I SAY YES, YES, YES YES< YES YES YES YES YES YES YESS YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES Creating
Through God Almighty I survived! In life I went through a lot that I feared men in my life due to trauma, abuse, rejection, failure anxiety etc. I divorced my hubby due to fears I encountered in our relationship but I prayed a lot and I succeeded to get over this. but I met my school times boyfriend last year(2008) we fought like frequently and I got scared he might harm me so much so I developed the fear of the unknown ended up inneed of engaging myself on something but couldn’t settle to that and this affected my studies I couldn’t complete my thesis for my MBA . then decided to purchase mind and soul books also reading one chapter was like trying to cross the sea without a boat. I talked this to my mom like in a way I wanted to take this fear over for I didn’t want to keep all this by myself. the short of the long is that I gained confidence then decided to set some time to go to gym, meditate, take walks, attend women shows offered by Oprah in Cape Town,also your Evolution website opened my eyes and changed my mind in that I now write all that I imagine all towards the future as well as focussing on my goals. the advice is to be more confident about yourself and have all the courage to acknowledge and face all our fears in order to attain happiness! Good Luck and God Bless you.
Aloha all,
I am writing from Hawaii. I am an European that grew up as child in a cold big city and placed a picture of a tropical beach (which later on I visited without realizing at first that it was the same beach!)
I now live in a tropical paradise and have made the impossible (everybody said) into the possible. I had to go through a lot of learned fears/limited beliefs to get to where I am. I have apprenticed with Hawaiian Kahunas, Tibetan Lamas, Native American healers, Taoist masters, etc…
I will tell you, as simply as I can, how I “upgrade and update my inner software”. How I raise above myself:
You can go through the fears, understand them, work with them, etc…
Or you can bypass FEAR all together. How? There is a constant place, a state of being within you that is above fear of any kind. While working with your personality ( learned beliefs through habitual thinking, many times limiting, known as your ego) may work eventually through hard persistence, working with your essence and true Self works immediately.
Simply raise your vibrational level to a higher frequency by feeling your way into peace, joy and self love and love for all that is. Feel it with focused intensity. Breathing consciously will take you there. Ride this peace and joy and love, and you will meet YOURSELF, and as you meet Yourself more and more frequently, you shall shift into this Self that knows no fear, because It Knows the nature of reality and knows how to create it.
As a bonus, your stress, high blood pressure, immune system and general health will improve automatically. You will become radiant, more and more like your true Self already is.
When I catch fear rising, I pause and remind myself, as Eckhart Tolle says, “This is just an emotion, this is just a thought”. I repeat it until the feeling peaks and ebbs. It’s been very effective at warding off mini panic attack moments.
If it’s a highly persistent fear, I’ll ask myself if it’s really that bad. What is it I’m afraid of? The consequences of something, right? I work through it until I find the real core of it, then dispel it using various methods: EFT, affirmations, reminding myself that chances are, someone in the world has it worse than I do.
But talking to the fear helps the most. It’s not resistance, it’s stepping outside of myself and observing the body having the feeling as a separate experience.
When faced with fear I pray. I think the worst thing that can happen is death.Since I know there is life after death I know that the fear can be let go after death. There is still a large concern(but not fear) for those left behind and how they will deal with a loss.I live my life now in a great deal of phyisical pain all the time,but I always think of the people out there that are worse off than I am and it can help with the fear of my futher pain.I try to be there for other people I know with fear and support them.Trying to learn and know who I am helps me with any fear I might have.Sharing myself with others hopefully helps them with their fears.
….I if at all possible go and spend time with my young son or my cat and straight away i feel protective and this eases a lot of my fear the nurturing instinct is very strong this takes away most initial fears, but then later in meditation i confront the fear feeling braver but i use my own technique, while meditating i imagine l’m my 4yr old son or myself at four and i do what all 4yr olds do and i question my fears til they’ve all been answered then i imagine l’m my cat sitting outside a mousehole and any fears that come out i attack them play with them examine them from all my cat angles and i usually find my mind wanders to now more important thoughts and i know the fears have gone xx
I’m 36 and I remember writing a song when I was only 19 about fear.
I didn’t even know what it meant until the last couple of years.
“The sky is falling to the world today
and all our dreams just float away
People are like clouds inside
I can see right through their foolish pride
There’s so much stain glass to look through
to find out what’s really true
I see your dreams, they fill my head
but they only exist in your bed
So tell me what you want, what you’re all about
Why are your dreams so filled with doubt
Open up let me see inside
there is no room here for Fear or Pride
Pain is good so don’t be afraid
It helps us see how we are made
You know deep down , your life’s a lie
But if you don’t wake up
Your soul will die. Your soul will die.”
Now I know that song meant for me to find my life’s purpose,
even if it wasn’t easy. At least I could really live and face dome of my Karma, do good for others and myself and realize what unconditional love was all about.
So now I call on my angels to walk with me and sing this song !!!
I have experience a time of total despair and during that moment when my body was numb with fear I somehow gathered myself enough to refuse to absorb it. You see my son had an accident and as he lay in bed fighting for his life I too struggled beyond any word that could describe it. I don’t know if it was sheer shock or an automatic self mechanism that kicked in but something happened. I felt myself detach from the fear and began to focus on not giving up. My mind went into survival mode and from this intuitively I realised I was an energy source that could help in some way. I remember closing my eyes and building up energy within and then I placed my hand on my son and for every day for three weeks I continued to do so. I used my positive thoughts to penetrate healing toward my son. During that time I almost lost him twice and as the nurse worked on him I continued to touch a part of him pulsating energy. Against all odds he survived and further more against all predictions he walked again. I continue to call on this source of energy as I have found it also regulates emotions. Fear can be managed and release by allowing the energy to build up and then let it go. Fear is an emotion that can sabotage you but when you stop and allow that build up to maximize than you can let it go.