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The Risks of Changing Your Life by Chris Cade

One of the deep subconscious blocks we have to transforming our lives is the risk of the unknown. Specifically, the unknown risk that it’ll turn our lives upside-down.

That’s because our personal transformation affects all of aspects of our lives, and especially intimate relationships. For example, a few years ago the path of personal transformation empowered me to make the incredibly difficult decision to file for divorce.

The reason it affects our personal relationships is this…

Every relationship has a balance point. It’s the state of relationship in which both people subconsciously agree “this is how things should be and are going to be.”

When one person makes permanent and lasting changes, it disrupts the balance point because there’s only three possible outcomes:

(1) The other person accepts the changes as they are.

This can be either an actual acceptance, or just a desire to not rock the boat. If it’s an actual acceptance, the relationship can reach the balance point again rather quickly. If it’s a desire to not rock the boat, then it’ll eventually lead to possibility number two:

(2) The relationship ends.

This happens because the changes are so significant that both people can no longer agree on the balance point. Sometimes it’s a literal end, while other times it just means a change of relationship (such as partners becoming friends). It happens because one person made notable changes while the other person was unable or unwilling to.

(3) The other person changes as well.

In an empowered relationship, this means that both people elevate their consciousness, change for the better, and ultimately find a new, more fulfilling balance point.

Circling back, remember this…

No matter which of those outcomes happens, when we change our lives we are putting ourselves AND others at risk.

(More about putting others at risk in a future blog post)

At the most basic level, we risk our emotions and rejection. At a more serious level, we risk our health, home and livelihood — particularly if the changes in relationship involve the workplace (such as an employee taking more accountability, responsibility, or pushing for serious organizational changes).

In 2009 I risked it all. I filed for divorce, asked my employer to lay me off (which they did), and foreclosed on my home. In short, I faced both the emotional and practical consequences of risking everything I had and knew myself to be.

I pray that kind of severe upheaval doesn’t happen to others when they make serious changes in their lives. Yet it seems to be par for the course.

With that in mind, when we’re reluctant to make changes in our lives we have to ask ourselves a very important yet rarely asked question:

How much are you willing to risk to transform your life?

Or phrased differently…

How much will you risk to have all the joy you’ve ever wanted?

How much will you risk for your freedom?

For your happiness?

For your health?

For that extraordinary romantic relationship your heart deeply yearns for?

If you aren’t willing to face the possibility of hurting yourself AND others, you’ll experience an inner reluctance. At least that’s what we call the nice, friendly “small” version of this emotion.

When reluctance gets too severe, we call it by a different name:


I had to go through a Dark Night of my Soul to understand that the risks of reluctance are VERY severe. I’d never wish it upon anybody else.

I used to call myself a “Reluctant Hero.” If you listen to old interviews with me, that’s how I’m introduced. That’s what my old bio said.

But I can’t live that way anymore. I can’t be that person…

Because being reluctant is too risky. Far more risky than overcoming the reluctance and embracing all that God wants me to have in this life.

My wish for you is that you look candidly at your reluctance. Ask yourself whether the risk of reluctance is worth the reward of staying comfortable, safe, and not living up to your greatest potential.

Or if you’d rather have it the other way around…

It’s actually less risky in the long run. :)

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
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One Response to “The Risks of Changing Your Life by Chris Cade”

  1. Leila says:

    I agree with you Chris that wanting to be more than you presently are is a risky undertaking and for all the reasons you list. Risking current relationships is probably among the most fear inducing. I also believe that we can make these transitions without hurting other people unnecessarily or in ways that they may find it hard to recover from. Sometimes there’s nothing you can do but watch someone suffer for their own reasons but sometimes you can do a lot to make it less traumatic.

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