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Ask Cyndi – How Do I Get My Mundane Life Back?

Hello Cyndi my name is Pete(31) and I’m hoping you can give me a helping hand. First off let me give you a quick overview of my situation. Seven years ago I got into a tremendous accident which left me a quadriplegic and unable to talk ” the doctor said I was going to be a veggie for the rest of my life and suggested to my family that I be institutionalized in a nursing home”. The first two-three years of recovery was a write-off “I was comatose”, I spent four long years in a long-term rehab hospital regaining my faculties and eventually I got to the point where it was time for me to move back home and I did “BOOYA I beat the odds, thanks for the advice doc”.

Ok enough about the past, I could probably write a whole book about that. Back to the present, I’ve returned home with my parents three years ago and my recovery process is still on-going (still need a wheel-chair and my speech is a little impaired but everything is getting better and better). So the reason why I am writing you today is I’m having trouble getting my life “back”. See over the years I’ve awoken to a world I have never seen before ie. I am no longer attracted nor care for worldly interest and materialistic matters, I see a world full of wonders and mysteries, awaiting for us to wake up and take/realize our true power/nature.

The “problem” I’m having is I do not know how to get my mundane-life back on the road, I lost all my material wealth and I always worked in the restaurant business “can’t do that any longer nor would I want too” so what I’m trying to say is how do I figure out what to do (being in wheel-chair with a speech impedement)? I’ve tried going with what I think my heart is telling me but I keep having doubts eg. my speech, physical condition, experience etc. I feel I am to be a sort of counselor and I know I want to be a service to others I just need some direction, can you help point the way?

I appreciate you very much for all that you do for the world, your awesome.
Your grateful subscriber, Pete K.

Hi Pete;

You want your mundane life back?  Really?  Why? Are you sure?

Now that we have gotten that out of the way – my next question is…

“What do you really want?”

Sounds like in your heart you know the answer to that question – or at least you are getting tastes of it when you quiet the doubts for a moment or two.  Allow yourself sink into those moments – what does it feel like when you imagine being of service to others in the way you describe?  Let yourself enjoy this feeling – and then allow your actions to come from that place of enjoyment.

Breath

How wonderful is it to just be able to breath on your own – and to be conscious of the delicious taste of the breath?

See

Are you still connecting and seeing the wonders all around us?  So many of us are so lost in the “mundane” that we have apparently lost the ability to see in the way that you describe…

Your story moves me and inspires me in a way that I feel in the center of my being.  It stirs something inside – it tickles that place that remembers what I am – that rejoices in the experience of being.   I expect that it is doing the same for many of those that are now reading it here  (and if that is the case – please share in the “Leave a Response” section below the post)

I think you are awesome :-)

As I sit with your story and your questions  I want to tell you to see those doubts through the eyes and heart of a man who already far exceeded any and all expectations.  Sit with each one of them as they come up and ask yourself…

“Is this really true?  Is what these thoughts are telling me really true?  What else may be true?”

And then commit to taking one small action each day towards your dream.

Sharing your story here is one of those steps – and I sense that writing may be a very powerful way for you to continue to inspire and share your story – so I want to tell you to keep writing – write your story, write about your motivation to keep working even after the doctors gave you no hope, write about the wonders that you are experiencing – about the joy of just being.

Write, question the doubts, and pay attention to that which inspires you….

It will, one breath at a time, lead the way

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My plan is to publish new questions 3-5 times a week (or more) – so check back often

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21 Responses to “Ask Cyndi – How Do I Get My Mundane Life Back?”

  1. Antje says:

    Hi Pete, I really felt deeply moved when I read your story. Thank you so much for sharing this with us! And even before I read Cyndis answer I thought to myself: “This guy knows how to write, and he’s really got a story to tell to the world!” So just like her I think this might be a good way to follow. But whatever you finally decide to do – listen to your heart, because deep inside you already know the answer! All the luck in the world to you!!! Love, Antje

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  2. Ray Moon says:

    Pete,
    Have to tell you that I do admire your spunk and ideas/ feelings. You know where you want to go…..you already said so. So, you don’t need direction anymore, you need a starting point and a first step. Are you
    ready for that? I think you are… just a little more self confidence and you will know, too. You may even take the first step, or have taken it before you realize it. Look again,..maybe it’s already behind
    you. If so, just build a little more momentum and don’t stop. God bless… is enough of a wish for you. Don’t you make any wishes, make
    moves. Luck doesn’t exist, so don’t hope for that, just keep your momentum up and go.

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  3. Hourhouse says:

    Hi Pete
    Congratulations! You are fighting back when many people would have taken the doctor’s ‘advice’. It often takes a life changing event for someone to ‘wake up’ into the reality which surrounds our mundane world and this is perhaps a time for you to look forward, not back.
    If you can be happy and find contentment within yourself, despite your difficulties and without material wealth, perhaps there is a message in there too for all those who strive to find happiness through matrial things rather than reaching for the abundance which surrounds you.
    My suggestion would be to take time out and just be, reflect on what is truly important to you now and how you want to help others. Your story is inspirational, but so is your new world view.
    I wish you well in your new life, Pete, and hope you find your path of inspiration. Tony

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  4. Star says:

    Wow, Pete, what an inspiration you are, what an amazing reponse to the Source taking everything you knew away from you!! Leaving you stripped bare, but with new eyes that see a whole new world. It seems to me you are already doing the thing that you ask – what should I be doing? You write beautifully and your story would inspire so many people. You have access to the world with the inet and could perhaps start a website/blog, make positive short clips stories etc. People could respond and a community might start. A whole new world awaits you. Sending an amazing soul many many blessings. Om shanti

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  5. Carol says:

    Wow, Pete!

    Sounds like this accident was a blessing. A blessing to get you out of your “mundane” life. You can inspire the world with your story. So many people are ready to throw in the towel at the least little setback. Just look at you!! You have defied all odds, on your own, simply through belief and faith.

    I so admire your courage. I think I speak for all of us when I say, we felt your pain to our very core. Our “Pain” is where our greatest ability to help others comes from. Until you have “lived” an experience, you can’t possibly “inspire” others. YOU are the expert when it comes to motivation, and instilling the desire to “live” in others. I would suggest maybe talking at high schools. So many of our young people need your message. Contact Ron Heagy at: 541-926-3985 He is someone who can show you just what you need to know.

    Good luck and GOD BLESS
    You have ALREADY blessed all of us
    Carol

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  6. Helena says:

    Dear Pete!

    You gata belive in your self!
    Thank you for a powerful message!
    sharig with the world!
    wii stile need to wake ap!
    Helena from sLOVEnija

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  7. Manjula says:

    Hi Pete,

    You said it yourself that you have lot to say. Why not write it for us, as and when and any which way it comes to you. The anecdotes that would make us see the lighter and brighter side of life.
    “Selected Memories of a different path”
    You surely know what made or makes you happy. We could discover ourselves and people around us with a little help from you. What say you :)
    Lots of Luv
    Manjula

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  8. Dejana says:

    Pete, maybe you SHOULD write that book. Your writing is compelling, I would love to read your story, and I am sure many other people would:)
    take care

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  9. David Hastings says:

    Hi Pete,

    Congratulations on getting so far along your road to recovery.

    As someone who has also had a life changing accident (82% second degree burns nearly 30 years ago), and where the medical professionals said I had no chance of surviving, I can reassure you that there is definitely life afterwards, which is usually nothing like what went before.

    I can now say that my accident was the best thing that happened to me, but five years after it, that was not the case. I was still seriously struggling to cope but sheer doggedness and determination kept me going, one day at a time. Family friends and animals (especially three labradors!) around me made a huge difference.

    You have some fine goals and ambitions and it is great that you care about the world and want to help others. Accept what you CAN do – it gives you a very unique view on life and you have some very special talents experiences and abilities that you can share with others which most other people cannot even imagine.

    Sure there may be some limitations, but please dont be afraid to ask for help – the world is mostly filled with really nice people who really want to help but sometimes dont have the courage to do so until asked.

    Life goes on, dont look back for the “mundane” life before. My life completely changed around after my accident, I got married, have three wonderful sons and now a 8 month old grandson. I do a fair bit of charity work and like helping others where I can.

    Dont look back, look forward with excitement and accept all the positives that your new life has to offer you.

    Good luck!

    David

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  10. AdminCyndi says:

    From Harry….

    Pete your are an amazing young man your strenth,courage and bravery is emence,doults and fears are only thoughts and in that sence they are not real . You have shown us how brave you already are, trust your gut feelings do what you feel is right for you. I don’t know how much your speech has been afected but maybe you could start exactly where you came from (hospital) You could encourage others in that very same place, it may not pay well but it will give you some confidence to be able to speak in other places later . There is always something good to be found in every bad situation we just have to look closely to find it , things do happen for a reason and one day you will be able to see it . Life has a way of doing things and we
    mostly don’t understand why but in time you will . Use your own mind power with positive thinking in the knowing that you will keep improving your health each and every day . Search the net about mind power , we have the power to create miracles with faith . I wish you a great and successful future , believe it and it WILL happen …..PS: Goodness is everywhere , we just need to be more aware !!! Best of luck from down under .

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  11. AdminCyndi says:

    from Freddie…

    I just wrote a doc. download for my web page about it being necessary to re invent yourself at times. I think one way to start would be to write a book, if a publisher does not want it, self publish. When you see yourself from your writings you can decide on that passion you have that needs to be explored. http://www.memasramblings.com

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  12. Hi Pete! I want to reinforce what these other folks are telling you, and what I see you telling yourself without realizing it. It would seem that your new direction is in inspirational writing AND speaking! The resources mentioned are good recommendations! Go to hospitals & just visit with the people that are in similar situations as what you have been. Think of it this way, how significant would it have been t o YOU if someone would have come to visit YOU when you;d been told there was little hope!? Doctors almost always give people little optimism for good outcomes in such situations & I’ve seen & heard nearly universally how people overcome such prognosis. Keep in mind that Doctors are JUST PEOPLE !! They are NOT visionaries and mystics! Our own WILL is the determining factor & YOUR’S is obviously very strong!
    I know personally – albeit 2nd hand, from whence you come! I had a girlfriend who was on the back of my motorcycle many years ago now & we were hit – there ARE NO “ACCIDENTS”! . . . just inattentive drivers! I was only knocked off the bike & onto my butt & hands, but SHE was run over! I stuck by her & she survived. Like YOU , she was a very special person who was determined to regain her mobility , etc.! Our Spirits are capable of “miracles” & it’s only when we allow our doubts & the skepticism of others to inhibit us, that we fail! She changed MY life forever & I’m eternally grateful! Accept NOTHING on face value! Remember that “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover” thing!? The truest lesson hear is to listen to YOUR INNER VOICE! That is what *I* learned! That voice that says “DO THIS” or “Stay away from that!” ! We are trained in contemporary society to doubt that , when our TRUTH tells us it is our “Higher Selves” / “GOD” / Creator / Wakan Tanka / BUDDAH , whatever – ( it’s the same entity, by the way!) showing us what we can not see from a physical vantage point! Always remember that we are told “The Kingdom of ‘GOD’ is WITHIN” !! I’m no Bible thumper – but THAT ONE is REAL! If I have learned one thing in life, it’s that as long as we continue to look without ( as in externally ) , then we continue to GO WITHOUT! ( As in experiencing LACK!) . Our minds have the ability to manifest what we wish to experience anything we wish! But be VERY specific ! The Universe is like a computer crossed with a genie in a bottle! “Your wish is My command” , combined with “Garbage IN, Garbage OUT!”. I wonder if you once sought to experience life in a different way!? YOU manifested it! OOPs! THAT was not quite what we had in mind , was it?! Be very careful & specific! You wouldn’t go to a restaurant & order BEEF & then complain when you were served a hamburger when what YOU had in mind was a STEAK! You order the steak to begin with! BUT, how do you want that steak? Medium rare? . . maybe with a baked potato with sour cream & chives, and smothered in mushrooms!? Do you see the difference? You must spell it out specifically! Try it! In your case, perhaps you want to regain your ability to speak well. Get specific & hold no expectations of HOW it will happen. Things come in ways we often do not recognize until later!
    On that note, I recommend visiting hospitals & schools as others have mentioned – there’s Spirit guidance in those words! Next, just be watchful & see what comes to you! You will be amazed at the blessings & it just may lead to the new career you seek! Miracles are generated by open Hearts, open minds & active bodies! Take action & watch what happens! Blessing to you ! – Justin

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  13. AdminCyndi says:

    dear pete u r truly awsome. to come through every thing u have with such a possitive outlook is truly majical. as far as i can see ur already on the path those beutifull moments u seek creat them in ur mind and realy hold on 2 them with ur heart and soul ..thay will find u . ur friend always louis x

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  14. Sujata says:

    Hi Pete,
    You have survived and made it for a reason. You are only now beginning to realise your purpose and keep listening to those yearnings and messages that you are receiving. I think the first step is to continue writing inspiring articles sharing your thoughts and experiences which in turn inpire others to realise that they too can make it despite the adversities faced.
    Tap into the Power within and you will shine. You are awesome.

    Love and blessings
    Sujata

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  15. AdminCyndi says:

    Pete GOD has given you a second Life so Trust in God and have faith in yourself and I am sure you will get an answer.
    In Gods Love & Light
    Mahesh

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  16. sudha says:

    you are awesome Pete.Waiting for your story .Go for it . God’s grace is with you.

    Love , light and laughter

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  17. Carole says:

    Hi, Pete. I work with wounded Veterans at Walter Reed Hospital in the U.S. These are men and women who come back to us with severe burns, loss of vision, hearing, limbs, with severe PTSD and Traumatic Brain injury–sometimes all of the above. In all that I have learned there, my personal observation is that one factor remains the most important in the healing process no matter the person or condition: Hope. And one of the most hope-inspiring things of all are stories of/from those who have gone through the fire and come out the other side. The hospitals have several programs to bring back past patients to talk to the current ones for that very reason. The understanding/belief that “If he/she can do it, I can do it” is one of the most powerful things that you can give to another human being who is suffering adversity, in my experience. Nothing is quite as convincing as hearing it from someone who has been there, and it can be the one lifeline that keeps someone going. I agree with Cyndi — keep writing, and see where it might take you.

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  18. Robert says:

    Seems like everyone here presumes you want to become another inspirational guru. Or something. And that someone called God is calling you to this. Or something.

    Why?

    I note that you stated that you :

    “tried going with what I think my heart is telling me but I keep having doubts. . . .”

    Which conveys a great deal of uncertainty.

    Which is perfectly normal, but something you will want to come to terms with.

    You also note:

    “I feel I am to be a sort of counselor and I know I want to be a service to others I just need some direction . . . .”

    Again. Why? For the money? For the fame? Due to some kind of guilt trip?

    You also note:

    “I am no longer attracted nor care for worldly interest and materialistic matters, I see a world full of wonders and mysteries, awaiting for us to wake up and take/realize our true power/nature.”

    I am taking the time to tell you that you can have permission from yourself to just be.

    For what it is worth, becoming a successful inspirational speaker or writer is a lot of hard work (unless you have a military sponsorship to get you going, like Tony Robbins), requires dealing with a lot of internal conflicts (what you expressed is just the tip of the iceberg), and requires a lot of compromise to your personal integrity and sense of self-worth. It is the land of snake oil, do not kid yourself.

    Thoughts? “a world full of wonders . . . .”

    Maybe start with a journal. Spoken word on a digital recorder. You have been given the gift of a disability? Can you travel? Take notes? Take pictures?

    Spend some time with the world full of wonders.

    If someone’s God has a plan for you, let Him take care of it.

    If you truly believe . . . . not “think” or “feel like”, but believe with temporal certainty that you want to “be of service”, there are lots of things you could do, and making a plan is a good way to start. Keeping a journal – start a blog! – is really a good first step in the plan.

    Thoughts and kindness, blessings, and good luck. Don’t be afraid.

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  19. Kathryn says:

    Hi Pete, Thank you so much for asking the question. In doing so, so many people got the chance to read your wonderful letter. It is so very inspiring to read of what you accomplished – against all odds. Before reading Carole’s reply, I thought, “Wow – how wonderful it would be if many people could hear Pete’s story on an ongoing basis. You say that your speech is a little impaired, but improving. I was thinking of you speaking at High Schools. I’m sure that every young person who saw & heard your story would never be the same again! They would know “There Is Hope. No matter What life presents me with, there is Hope.” And then I thought of you being a living example to people in hospitals or rehab centres – an example that there is Hope. I don’t know if that type of thing appeals to you. You have an amazing talent for writing. Perhaps there’s even a magazine where your writing skills & life experience would be a good fit. Who knows, maybe You could be the one who people write letters to & who you could give encouragement to! You say you would like to be of service to others & you mention being some sort of counselor. It’s obvious from the comments that you are a great source of inspiration to others. You are totally capable of being of great service to others, just by being you! Love & appreciation coming your way!

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  20. Leila says:

    Hey Pete, I would say that it takes time. Even if you feel stronger physically etc., you have to get used to a whole new way of being in the world. From my perspective you are young to have had such a perspective altering experience – but, wow, what a journey you’ve started. There are others like you out there and it’s so great when you meet one of them. You’ll recognize each other straight away and then you have a special connection that’s wordless and very beautiful. Others too will recognize your strength and calming ability even if they don’t understand where it comes from. They will appreciate you and what you’ve brought back from where you’ve been. Good luck, Pete.

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  21. John says:

    I applaud your courage and perseverance Pete. This experience has opened you to a new way of being, and it is precious and must be nurtured. As Cyndi so wisely said, look within and you will find the answer. We are all making a transition from victimhood back into the realization of our inherent divine power and there is a way for all of us. I always tell people to simply ask “Father, show me the way”.. and then listen with your heart and watch for signs. Our loving creator is most happy to make a way for us in the world that will enhance your being and allow for the expression of the new you.
    Namaste’ and Blessings
    Dr. John Michael Christian
    http://www.johnmichaelchristian.net
    http://www.spontaneousawakening.com

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