With the explosion of current research on the amazing powerful benefits of meditation, many people are giving it a try. Many people get excited to change their lives through meditation. A good many of those will give it up after a week or a month, saying that “This program’s just not working for me” or “It’s not what I expected” or “I thought it was supposed to make me feel peaceful and I’m more anxious” or “It’s just too frustrating, I can’t quiet my mind.”
If you’ve any experiences similar to these, read on. What you’re about to hear might not be what you expect and it could change your life.
As an author of several meditation and mind-body training programs, I’m always looking for the best ways to communicate these practices in a way that people “get it” and “change their lives” for the better. What I’ve come to learn is that people often don’t get the experience they are looking for because they are either over anxious, or they are trying too hard, or they don’t really understand what they’re doing or what is happening to them during meditation.
Many people come to meditation because they want to relax and de-stress. They are caught up in certain habits of thinking and feeling that are wearing them out and they want to learn how to change that. The challenge is that meditation teaches you a different way to relate to your thoughts and feelings and it often takes some time before it becomes easy and automatic. Meditation is a learned skill that you will get better and better at through consistent practice.
In meditation you learn to observe how you think and feel without being caught up in it and carried away by it. You learn to focus your attention on one thing or one pattern, such as your breathing, a place in your body, or a particular thought, feeling, or intention for a period of time. Whenever you notice that your mind has wandered from your focus, you simply recognize that your mind has wandered, you let that wandering thought go, and you return to your point of focus.
As you meditate, you are going to start noticing when you are anxious or stressed. You may notice your lack of inner peace or the nonstop chatter in your mind. Meditation didn’t cause these experiences, it enables you to see them. When you begin to notice your anxiety, your stress, and the non-stop chatter in your mind, what is most important is your attitude toward these experiences and toward yourself.
Accept them and accept yourself-completely. Instead of judging yourself critically for wandering from your focus, or for being anxious or tense, or for having a busy mind, welcome your realization, accept it, then let those experiences go and return to your meditative focus. You do this gently and easily as many times as it happens.
This attitude of complete self acceptance, of acceptance of whatever happens, begins to free you from the mental habit of pushing yourself, criticizing yourself and others, and generally resisting what life brings to you. “Acceptance of what is” is a doorway into deeper self knowledge and expansion of your greater possibilities.
So, if you’ve started meditating and have found it frustrating, begin by accepting the process exactly as it is. Observe your mind during meditation without judgment. Allow yourself to be exactly as you are. As you release self-critical pressure, amazing things will begin to happen. Your meditation will deepen naturally, your mind will begin to quiet, you will more accurately sense inner guidance, and you’ll be on the way to living the ideal possibilities that you are meant to live.
Are You Ready To Discover The Benefits Of Meditation For Yourself? In the next few minutes, I’ll show you a simple meditation technique you can use to instantly release ANY unwanted thought feeling or belief. If your health and well being are important to you, click here to get started now.
© 2009 by Kevin Schoeninger
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