It’s difficult to pick up a success book without reading about the importance of goal setting and how to achieve goals but there’s something you may not realise about goal setting and that if you are not in the right place vibrationally, goal setting may actually be stopping you from getting what you want.
Now I know this may difficult for many of you to swallow because self-help books such as ’The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People’ really puts a strong emphasis on setting goals as the number one habit that will guarantee your success.
But this is not true for everybody.
In order to understand why it might be holding you back, lets examine what happens when you set a goal and what effect it has on your vibration.
If you are like most people, you know what you want so you think that in order to get what you want, you need to set that as a goal and try really hard to achieve it. But then what happens is that you start to measure the desired result against what you actually have and suddenly if the result is not coming fast enough for you, a feeling of anxiety or desperation comes into your being and the goal suddenly starts to look unreachable. When you feel like this, you have put yourself in a vibrational stance of not having something because the goal stays exactly as that, a goal and not something that actually exists for you. In other words, you have just put up a big wall of resistance.
Let’s make this clearer. Whether or not you reach the goals you set for yourself does not depend on how hard you work or how much you think about the goals, it depends on whether or not you are in a state of allowing. Allowing is where real attainment happens.
When you set a goal, you are hoping that something will manifest and the process for manifesting things happens in three steps. Firstly, you have to ask for it. This isn’t a problem as we ask for things all the time. In fact every time you think of something you don’t want, you are thinking that you want the opposite. The second step is that the universe gives you what you want by putting things in motion for you. Step three is to be a vibrational match for what you want and you only be this when you feel good about something.
In fact when you do a visualisation or make an affirmation, you are actually engaging in step three, not step one. Affirmations are part of the art of allowing. The affirmations will only be effective if the feeling place you get to as a result of using them puts you in vibrational alignment with what you want.
Here is an example of vibrational alignment. Lets say one of my goals is to make twice as much money this year as I have made last year. This is a great goal but if when I think about money, all I can feel is the lack of it, this is vibrationally opposed to allowing it to happen. Lets say I replaced that feeling with a feeling of eagerness and fullfillment, and a KNOWING that it will be given. This is the vibration that the universe will respond to and will make the manifestation happen much sooner.
People who achieve their goals do so because because they are a vibrational match for them. Goal setting actually makes them feel good, not desperate. They know that the goal won’t be that hard to achieve if they just stay on track and they actually have fun with it instead of taking it too seriously. If you are not having fun with your goals, then you need to take a step back RELAX because this is the best way to ease the resistance you feel. Whatever you do, don’t look for evidence that your goals have manifested by looking at your physical environment. Look for evidence of your progress by seeing how you feel because if you feel positive and hopeful, your mind will allow the creative process to happen.
So there it is. It’s quite simple really.
All you need to do now is put it to work.
Linda is certified NLP practitioner and owner of the popular mindset blog http:subliminalmindprogram.com. You can download a free copy of her e-book, ‘How Your Sub-conscious Mind Works’ by clicking here: http://subliminalmindprogram.com/freedownload/