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Simply…EMPOWERED Book Excerpt by Crystal Andrus

Clean It Up

“Staying busy exhausts us. Holding on keeps us stuck. Avoiding ‘what is’ robs us. Running away disempowers us. Our saving grace is that our consciousness will continue to show us what must be cleaned up in order for us to heal, evolve, create, and sustain.” — Crystal Andrus

When it comes to creating an amazing life, most of us just want to get on with it and get to the good stuff. We’re ready to get down to business. We want to forget the past and move on. Let bygones be bygones. We’re embarrassed about, or ashamed of, certain parts of our lives. What’s the point of looking back?

And yet, inevitably, similar to a very long anchor that gets dropped overboard as we’re sailing down that wonderful river of life, something always happens that keeps us stuck right where we were. Why can’t we keep our raft going downstream? Why are we replaying the same story over and over? We thought we’d dealt with this! Or worse, why are we replaying the same story with just a different person or scenario?

Well, until you’ve truly cleaned things up, they will keep cropping up!

Until you face your past, your not-so-wise choices, and your debtors and demons; and until you confront the reality of what you’ve fed your body and how you’ve starved your soul or shrouded yourself in shame, you can continue to avoid the truth, but you can’t hide—at least not from yourself! Your guilt and fear will eat away at your ability (and, eventually, even your desire) to succeed; they’ll rob you of your power and keep you struggling in the dark. Playing it small will become normal, and you’ll never realize your potential.

Self-sabotage is a clear sign that you have something weighing on your conscience. Repress your feelings—your embarrassment, blame, sorrow, sadness, anger, or jealousy—in whatever way you’ve learned, and they’ll find a way to reappear. As long as you try to resist uncovering “it,” dealing with it, or healing it, it will persist. The burden of carrying it, whether or not you’re aware of it, will exhaust you. Weight gain, financial messes, health problems, addictions, disorganization, and relationship woes are ways in which repressed thoughts, feelings, fears, and unmet needs manifest themselves in your outer world.

If you can’t seem to create or sustain success, you clearly have unfinished business that must be cleaned up first! Only you can clean up your own stuff—even if you think it would be better for someone who’s bigger, stronger, richer, or smarter to step in and save you!

What I promise you is that once you clean things up (no matter how hard it may seem), you can take the next step in creating an incredible life! Unfinished business drains your energy and robs you of strength and integrity.

It Is What It Is

Most of us have a hard time seeing the truth about our own lives: the truth about ourselves, our situation, choices, fears, and motivators. We have a hard time accepting that we’ve created the circumstances we’re in—that life is what we make it!

So if things aren’t so great in your life, you must ask yourself, Why would I create this? Whether or not you choose to see it, the answer is always there: It is what it is.

Are you willing to face the truth and shine a light on “what is,” without any judgment, excuses, justification, shame, blame, guilt, or regret? If so—if you’re ready to take a peek at things—you’re ready to begin the process of creating a magnificent life. If not—if you’d rather choose to deny accountability or not face yourself—then this book isn’t for you . . . at least not right now.

Cleaning up your life takes courage. It takes honesty and hard work, and you must be prepared to face the music. It can feel tough at times, but so illuminating at others. It all starts with stepping outside of yourself, almost like an observer, and letting your life be your mirror . . . your truth . . . your gift.

Why not look at your life today but with one catch: Imagine that you didn’t know the person staring back at you. Try it. Stand before a full-length mirror and describe the person you see. What would you think of her? What would your reflection tell you about her? Would you see someone who takes care of herself? Someone who eats well, exercises, and honors her temple? Would you see someone smiling, happy, confident, and self-assured? What do her eyes say? Her skin? Nails? Hair? Teeth? Clothing? Weight? Posture? How does she talk to herself when she’s all alone?

Now imagine you’re a fly on the wall in her home. How does she speak to her family—spouse, children, parents, and/or siblings? How do they treat her? Does she thrive on stress, always creating drama and complications? Or does she speak her truth, even if the people around her don’t agree with her views? Does she keep secrets, preferring to handle things (or at least some things) alone? Or does she live her life like an open book?

Does she spend beautiful quality time with those she loves most? Does she hug, kiss, and say “I love you” often? How does she talk about her friends when they aren’t around? Her mate? Parents? In-laws? Children? Is she as honest in person? Is she honest at all?

How is her sex life? Is she passionate and uninhibited or uptight and boring?

Does she constantly think about her past, reliving old fights and hurtful comments? Has she forgiven those who’ve hurt her, or does she bring things up whenever she needs justification or quick retaliation?

Is her home harmonious, loving, and light? Is her bedroom a beautiful, sexy, feminine sanctuary? Is her bathroom a mini-spa retreat? Are there soothing candles, soft music, and wonderful bath products to caress her skin? Or is her kitchen cluttered, her freezer stuffed with old food, her closet crammed with clothes, and her basement filled with stuff from 15 years ago?

Does she have a poverty-hoarding mentality, or does she trust in the flow of life, spending and saving?

The truth?

What about her income, debt, and long-term planning? Does she know her worth, and does she receive it? Is she financially independent? Does she live within her means? Has she planned for the future while enjoying the present? Is she afraid or excited?

Look at her work. Is it fulfilling, purpose driven, and satisfying? Does it light her up? What does it say about her? Is it balanced with play?

Examine her health. How does she eat? Does she smoke, drink, or take drugs? What’s her cholesterol ratio? Her blood pressure? Resting heart rate? BMI? Does she even know the answers to these questions? Does she take responsibility for her well-being, or is she expecting her doctors to fix her when things fall apart? Perhaps she’s so much in denial that she doesn’t even believe anything will ever fall apart, even though she’s neglecting her health?

Review her habits and hobbies. (And not the version she’s been sugarcoating.) The truth! Does she eat too much, drink too much, shop too much, or gossip too much? Does she waste time on mindless Internet sites or spend money carelessly? Or does she read great books, listen to motivational CDs, journal her feelings, and take action on her plans and dreams? Is she in denial, squandering her most precious commodity—time—or is she clear, sharp, focused, and inspired?

Look deep into her heart. Do you see trust, acceptance, love, and forgiveness, or frustration, anger, animosity, and regret? Do you see long-term true-blue friendships and an honest and deeply committed passionate relationship; or do you see a few fair-weather friends, a lack of intimacy, fear, longing, and loneliness?

What does her reflection say about you?

This is your life. She is you.

Let her life be your mirror. It will show you the truth if you’ll allow it. You can keep pretending that it’s going to magically get better, but it won’t.

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This exercise isn’t intended to shame, blame, or judge you, nor is it meant to make you beat up on yourself. (You probably already do a lot of that!) The purpose is to pull you out of denial and into the reality you’ve created. You cannot change that which you are unwilling to face. The truth will set you free!

The simple fact remains: You can run as far as you like but whenever and wherever you stop, you’ll discover that you’re still with yourself—your story, your shame, your guilt, your blame. And no one can save you from that!

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Simply…EMPOWERED!

We all want to feel empowered, strong, and inspired. We all want to experience abundance, joy, and love. Some of us achieve it (or at least part of it), and others endure one letdown after another. Yet very few of us can actually create a magnificent life and sustain it. It’s almost as if we’ve been programmed to believe that what goes up must come down. Just as our lives are beginning to take shape, we’re already gearing up for the inevitable fall . . . but we don’t have to live in this mind-set.

In this inspiring book, best-selling author Crystal Andrus reveals that you’re not who you’ve been—you are the potential of who you will become. And you can become anyone you choose to be. You are the co-creator of your destiny! Whether or not you realize it, your actions (or lack of action) and reactions will either blow you out into the stormy seas of life or steer you toward the most wonderful adventures you could ever dream of. The choice is yours.

Through powerful stories, detailed action steps, and challenging exercises, Crystal will help you navigate the rough waters you encounter on your journey, providing you with the tools you need to create and sustain the passionate, successful life you deserve. Tap into your inner wisdom and become simply . . . empowered!

To Purchase this Book (which comes with over $2000 worth of Bonuses) visit: Simply…Empowered

About the Author

Crystal Andrus is a worldwide leader in the field of self-discovery and personal transformation. From a bruised and battered beginning—one that could have sent her in the opposite direction—she has risen to become a best-selling author, motivational speaker, a women’s advocate, health and fitness expert, and the nutritionist on the international hit TV show X-Weighted, seen in more than 15 countries. Certified by the American College of Sports Medicine and Canadian School of Natural Nutrition, Crystal is the CEO and founder of Crystal Andrus Productions—a company dedicated to creating health and healing products, CDs, DVDs, retreats, and telecourses; as well as the founder of the SWAT Institute—a long-distance “Empowerment Coaching” school.

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10 Responses to “Simply…EMPOWERED Book Excerpt by Crystal Andrus”

  1. It just sounds all so judgemental to me. Why encourage us to criticise ourselves? Why not encourage a more positive reflection? I prefer the Ho-oponopono approach – simply say “I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you” There’s no need for an itemised breakdown of issues – this is more like the GPs do in their surgery, where they box the symptoms and send away with the appropriate remedy. With the wonderful Ho-oponopono method, it’s simply enough to send love to you or whoever you choose.

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  2. Tara says:

    Sarah, I agree. The secret is to let things go and forgive, not revisit and torture yourself with blame. Also, sometimes things are beyond our control, after all, neither you nor I are the only ones on this planet which is why we need to learn forgiveness even more. I think this woman is WAY off base.

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  3. Ladies,
    Whenever an excerpt is taken from a book — and this being my book :-) – you must realize that it can be taken out of context. The point of this exercise, when coupled with ALL the different exercises and insights and loving support (YES, THE BOOK IS ALL ABOUT GETTING YOU TO LOVE YOURSELF, is to help you see where some parts of your life are off-track. You can’t let go and forgive until you face yourself–and your reality. I promise you that when you read Simply…EMPOWERED in its entirety you will see in a different light. Read some of the reviews on amazon.com and you’ll discover that I’m ALL ABOUT FORGIVING yourself and being kind to yourself BUT that takes cleaning up the unconscious baggage you’ve been carrying around!
    Warmly,
    Crystal

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  4. Rich says:

    Dont judge a book by its cover…uummm…and dont judge a book by an excerpt from the middle of the book either.lol.I think its a good exercise to take responsibility for our lives and having the courage to bring our issues into the light is a big step.

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  5. Aydan says:

    I actually like the idea of being the fly on my wall. And this excerpt got me thinking about how I would answer some of the questions. Forgiving is easier said than done, so any help in that direction is welcome. I will definitely try this book.

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  6. Tanja says:

    I loved Simply Woman and Transcendent Beauty as both books were very helpful and practical. Crystal is brave to share her story in this new book but the tone in her personal narrative reminds me of something. There is a term for someone who survived horrific early experiences and triumphs and shares it. Andrus triumphant tone has undertones of a womean who while exposing the terrible abuse of youth still relishes her sexuality. Good that she got married again because I seriously doubt Andrus can truly sinceerly say she has the confidence to live once the sexual allure fades. Bridgot Bardot lost her looks. Someday someone else will be 21 and hot. If men stopped noticeing Andrus how would she really feel? My bet is that she may take it very hard the day her daughters get the male attention and she is totally overlooked.

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  7. Capricorn says:

    Tara,

    I agree that this woman is off base. I’ve been a follower of Jillian Michaels (the real deal despite teh kettleball debacle) and her business partner Jackie Warner (also the real deal) who don’t use their sexuality disguised. Crystal wants to be famous. She should have gone into acting. Instead she is pretending to be an empowerment coach for women. When my sister sent me this the first thought was, Crystalize: (def) verb for narcissist. I have way more respect for Kim Kardashian because she is HONEST about being a fame seeking missile who, though she can’t cook, may be coming out with an Armenian cookbook! Watch out Rachel Ray

    From the book “The Narcissim Epidemic”:

    Narcissism is not simply a confident attitude or a healthy feeling of self-worth. As we explore in Chapters 2 and 3, narcissists are overconfident, not just confident, and – unlike most people high in self-esteem – place little value on emotionally close relationships. We will also address other myths, like “narcissists are insecure” (they’re typically not), and “it’s necessary to be narcissistic to succeed today” (in most contexts, and long-term, narcissism is actually a deterrent to success).

    Understanding the narcissism epidemic is important because its long-term consequences are destructive to society. American culture’s focus on self-admiration has caused a flight from reality to the land of grandiose fantasy. We have phony rich people (with interest-only mortgages and piles of debt), phony beauty (with plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures), phony athletes (with performance-enhancing drugs), phony celebrities (via reality TV and YouTube), phony genius students (with grade inflation), a phony national economy (with 11 trillion dollars of government debt), phony feelings of being special among children (with parenting and education focused on self-esteem), and phony friends (with the social networking explosion). All this fantasy might feel good, but, unfortunately, reality always wins. The mortgage meltdown and the resulting financial crisis are just one demonstration of how inflated desires eventually crash to earth.

    From Chapter 3: Isn’t narcissism beneficial, especially in a competitive world? Challenging another myth about narcissism

    Narcissists have a high tolerance for risks, because they are so confident they are right and that things will go well. For this reason, narcissists are successful when investing in bull markets, when their overconfidence and willingness to take risks pays off. In a study using a simulated stock market, narcissists did better than others in when the market was headed up. Of course, this superior performance disappeared as soon as the market turned south – then narcissists lost their shirts due to their higher tolerance for risk. …

    U.S. high school kids have not improved in academic performance over the last 30 years, a time when self-esteem has been actively encouraged and boosted among American children. According to the National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP), 17-year-olds’ math scores have risen slightly, from 304 to a 307, but reading scores have stayed completely flat at 285. So, at best, there has been less than a 1% improvement in academic performance. At the same time, high school students’ grades have inflated enormously. While only 18% of students said they earned an A or A- average in 1976, 33% said they were A students in 2006 – a whopping 83% increase in self-reported “A” students. So, we have had less that a 1% improvement in actual learning over 30 years, but an 83% increase in A grades. Apparently, our culture has decided to go with the strategy of boosting the fantasy of success rather than success itself, similar to the amplifiers in the movie Spinal Tap that “go to eleven.”

    Narcissists may seem like a tasty treat when you first meet them, but they are not. Narcissism is absolutely corrosive to social relationships. People who have been deeply involved with narcissists can tell you this. These relationships destroy trust in others. You learn not to trust anyone after being mistreated by someone so charming and likable. You also lose trust in yourself. If you couldn’t see this coming, what does that tell you about your judgment? And then, to dip the wound in salt, relationships with narcissists are remembered and ruminated about for a long time. People ponder what went wrong; they ruminate about the warning signs they should have seen; and they waste a lot of time trying to figure out what made the narcissist into a narcissist.

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  8. Kathryn says:

    A sample from a book is just that. Don’t write off someone from a sample. I’m Canadian and have heard of Crystal but I prefer Tosca Reno who is also Canadian and wrote the Eat Clean books.

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  9. Laura says:

    The excercises are quite insightful but what exactly are Crystal’s methods in designing them. I went to her website after buying the book and she doesn’t appear to be trained in psychology. Overall it is kind of New Agey. Like Kathryn’s sentiment I prefer Tracy Anderson.

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  10. Alanna Jane says:

    WOW! Everyone is more than definitely entitled to their own opinions, but wow, there are some really harsh judgements in this comment section. I personally think that Crystal is an amazing change agent in women’s empowerment. She says it straight up and how it is without sugar coating, but she is rooting for you the whole time. As a survivor of several extreme traumas and later rebuilding my life, I have used several of Crystal’s programs to great effect. And this book is truly inspired. Feel free to totally disagree with me, for I have no attachment to how others feel about this work, but is it truly necessary to personally scandalize someone that you don’t know at all based on a short excerpt from her book?

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