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Start Believing In YourSelf Again (Writer’s Workshop # 4 plus a Whole Lot More)

Somewhere, sometime, somehow, somebody told you something limiting and negative about yourself…

And you believed them.

It happens to all of us in big ways, small ways, and every shade in between. For example, the now successful and inspiring Victor Serebriakoff “lost” 15 years of his life because he believed somebody else’s ignorant and short-sighted opinion of himself.

Before you continue reading, click here now and watch this video about Victor’s amazing story.

Like Victor, we all have “stories” from authority figures that we mistakenly adopt as truth, and these stories become hardwired into our brains as “reality.” It’s not our fault though; our brains are already wired to respect and adopt the opinions of authorities.

Here’s a story to illustrate this point…

Imagine you’ve just landed at an airport in a foreign country where none of the signs are in English. You are the first person off of the plane, and you see a person in a suit with a nametag who appears to work for the airlines.

You ask “Excuse me. Do you speak English?”

“Yes” the woman in uniform replies.

“Where do I get a taxi?” you ask.

“Turn right. Follow the moving walkway to the escalators and go up to the 2nd floor. Turn left, and there’s a line there to wait for a taxi.”

“Thank you,” you say as you go off on your way.

Seems like an innocent enough interaction, right? Here’s the thing though…

What if that person gave you the wrong directions? Not to say that person was intentionally misleading you, but perhaps something was lost in translation because her English is not native. Or perhaps she mistakenly said left instead of right? Maybe she forgot to tell you that there’s two escalators and not to take the first one. Or maybe she had a bad day and just wanted to take it out on some poor unsuspecting tourist in a feeble attempt to make herself feel better.

It doesn’t matter what her “story” is.

What matters is that you believed what she told you -because- she was in uniform and appeared to be an authority within the context of the airport. That’s just how our brains work, and that’s why it’s not really a mystery that when we are young we naturally believe what our parents, teachers, coaches, and other authority figures say about us.

Instinctively, it’s a survival mechanism that goes back to our deepest primal roots. It’s the part of us that knows we must be accepted by leaders and authority figures if we are to “survive” in the wild. It’s a pack mentality in which our primitive nature believes a “story” that lack of acceptance is equivalent to physical death (because that was actually true centuries ago and it got wired into our DNA).

But you’re not in the wild anymore, and you’re not living centuries ago. You’re living now and today as a grown adult who can think and feel for yourself. This also means that whatever stories people told you during childhood about yourself are probably incorrect and outdated.

The thing is, just because somebody is in a position of authority doesn’t make that person right. And it especially doesn’t mean they know you better than you know yourself. With that in mind, here’s a brief yet powerful exercise you can use right now to transform one of those old limiting stories into a new one of empowerment.

Evolution Ezine Writer’s Workshop: Assignment #4

1. Think about one limiting belief you currently have about yourself. Perhaps you feel you’re not pretty enough, or not smart enough (like Victor). Perhaps you believe you’re not coordinated or athletic, or maybe you just aren’t a good cook. It could be any of those things or something entirely different. Whatever it is, choose one.

2. Walk backwards through your memories until you can remember the earliest and/or most influential people in your life who first told you that specific limiting belief that you adopted as your own “story.”

3. Now ask yourself, “What if that person was wrong? How might my life have been different?”

4. With that answer, write down a new story about yourself. Begin the story with that person telling you the very same limiting and incorrect statement that they told you back then.

5. This time, don’t believe that person. Instead, imagine that you knew 100% without a doubt that person was wrong. Write down your compassionate response letting that person know that although you respect his or her opinion, you know that you are much more empowered and capable than he or she realizes.

6. Continue your story by writing about how one or more situations later on in your life would have gone better as a result of your different response.

The wonderful thing about this exercise is that you can use it over and over for different “stories” you have from your past that have ingrained themselves as limiting beliefs in your daily life. It’s just one of the many tools you have at your disposal to transform your life for the better.

I look forward to reading your story, so please write it in the comments section below!

And even if you choose not to share your story publicly, Cyndi and I invite you to email it privately to us at cyndi@evolutionezine.com

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
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P.S. Remember to watch the video about Victor’s incredible story, and after you watch it please share that video with your friends and family. You never know whose life you may help transform simply by giving them a new way to look at the old and outdated “stories” in their lives that they no longer need.

Click Here Now And Hear Victor’s Story

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8 Responses to “Start Believing In YourSelf Again (Writer’s Workshop # 4 plus a Whole Lot More)”

  1. Fiona Boyd says:

    Hi, look this is a great video but I think there’s a little more to unpack here. Why do those in authority and with positions of responsibility feel they can so glibly sum up and describe the potential of others who appear to have little authority or no ability to fight back? I’ve been in leadership positions and at times have been bombarded with others Ideas that I don’t ‘get’ and neither do I like their delivery, however am always gracious enough to give them encouragement to keep pursuing their dream or vision. Isn’t it time that those in authority actually understood the power they have to uplift or condemn others and to speak and act with consideration, restraint and kindness? I suspect Victor was as he was at 15 because he wasn’t one-tracked opinionated and overly full of himself – really super intelligent people in my experience tend to see the complexity of what’s around them and are cautious about saying any one way is the way – they know that new information brought to hand can change the view substantially. But once they’ve got some quality information in, some encouragement to go do something with it, and a vision they’re in love with, they’re unstoppable! I’m all for starting a club called, ‘keep your opinions about other folks potential to yourself’.

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  2. Geetali says:

    My limiting belief is that I am not pretty. What if there wasn’t a specific person who instilled that belief in me? What if I absorbed this through the talk I heard in the family (not directed at me, specifically) or through advertisements or TV or some-such, that, for example, being tall, being fair-skinned or slim was what defined beauty. And in light of these indicators, I found myself falling far short?
    Wouldn’ we be grossly simplifying things by saying that X person, or Y event made me think this way?

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  3. Dear Chris,

    I have been following you for several years now and I just wanted to let you know how appreciative we all are for your growth and spiritual development. I have seen you grow, heard the strength in your teachings and writings, even already see the change in you since your move. Please keep up the good work and this piece is spot on. I wish more attention was given to the younger generation, as they are our future. We so often see and hear this story played out day after day. What a shame that we dilute and destroy the spirit in such a way.

    Someone once said, “It is too bad that intelligence is wasted on youth”. or something to that effect. There is nothing wasted on youth that is done in love, kindness and certainly building up of the spirit that is in us all.

    Keep up the good work and keep pumping out these gems. You are touching so many people and I am one who is deeply thankful for you and your efforts.

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  4. Shirl Lee says:

    I wanted to share a couple of personal incidents with you:
    Once when I was going to work, I looked at myself in the mirror, & wished I had something nice to wear, but knew I could not afford clothes when my children needed food to eat and my little girl needed medicine. Then, my very young son looked at me and said Mommy, you look so beautiful. That evening at work, I felt so radiant and so blessed.

    Another time I was at work, and these 2 beautiful intillgent appearing females were discussing another girl who had reported that a worker was saying unwanted and unnecessary sexual things to her repeatedly. They were saying that they thought this lovely girl had brought this upon herself. I told them that I had also heard this same man make some comments about both of them. I told them what I had heard him say about them and they looked at me in utter disgust-not believing me. One looked at me and said, you know, some people have it and others don’t, & you just don’t. I did not say anymore or try to convince them that this man had made comments about them several times. Her words about me hurt, but I thought she is saying the truth. And then, an amazing thing happened in my life. At the time when other beautiful women were beginning to worry about wrinkles or whatever, suddenly (not due to anything I was doing) men found me so beautiful. At first I could not believe it was me that this was happening to, but after so many things happened, it was impossible for me to not know I was being admired by them. I will tell you of a few of the many many incidents that let me know. Once in a busy restaurant, these 2 men were looking at me & they both were exclaiming about how beautiful I am, and one kneels down in front of me on the floor and says all these things to me while the other is fanning himself acting like he is going to pass out-also muttering things about my beauty. I could not keep from smining at their antics. Several men (that I personally did not know) told my father or other family members they thought I was the most beautiful woman they had ever seen. Once I was looking for my daughter at a night club, and a guy that I had never seen before, convinced others that I was a movie star-& there was a long line of people who wanted my autograph. When I think about it, that still makes me laugh as I am totally amazed at what some men will do to try to get a point across. Now,working as a very old woman, I have a beautiful feeling when a young person lovingly calls me granny or tells me I am beautiful to him/her, in spite of the fact that I know they are not talking about physical looks. When I look back at pictures of me, I do not see this “beauty” that I heard others proclaim I had, nor do I see the years of ugliness I felt as a child and a young woman.

    But I do notice how incredibly beautiful people are -people of all ages. And when I see a person who “feels” he or she is ugly, or not smart enough, or not something enough, I want to reach out to them and tell them of the beauty & ability I see in him/her. I wish I could take a magic wand and wipe away the sadness and the deep hurt they try so bravely not to show to others.

    It is words and actions such as you have, that will help people to see & shine in their own beauty. Thank you for your loving and caring heart messages that help individuals see themselves as they truly are.

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  5. Lercy Melendez says:

    Thank you, you are truly a powerful force of inspiration..I continue to come across your work Via FB and Twitter and my emails thank you very much… Im not surprised im sure this is the start of something im destined to be/do…. Thank you, and i posted it on my FB/Twitter.

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  6. ian says:

    I have only briefly read your article because in that brief look I saw a problem.. It seems you may have been the type of person that had overbearing people telling you things about yourself and that affected you..what if someone were for instance not really clever at certain things. is that not a fact? I am for instance not too good at maths, I tried to learn trig later in life for my sailing career but found it just about impossible so I gave in and did my calcs with a computer.. I don’t now think I’m dumb ,my teacher at school obviously struggled to get my knowledge in maths to improve.. but I take it all as : thats me ..me the person that finds maths difficult and my spellings not too hot either and I’m not the most handsome guy and I can’t learn languages etc etc etc.. but I’m me My point is (and I realise it’s not too straight forward) I think only certain people fall into the bracket you refer to . similar to how the world began, human minds are I beleive too complex to have just one kind of solution ie– love..peace.. forgiveness etc

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  7. Joy says:

    As a young teen my adult sister in law set out to saboutage me for some reason of her own. She told me I was fat, inelegant, dumb, lazy and spoiled. Perhaps the last accusation was correct because both my siblings were adults by the time I came alone and I was everyones favourite. I dropped out of school and became agoraphobic. A good friend got be back to school when I was 23 and I discovered that I have a very high IQ. I am and have always been extremely articulate and have always written stories since my earliest years. Another traumatic event happend and I dropped out of Uni though all my lecuteres wanted me to continue because me writing was unique in some way. I never found out what way. I continue to write but I am fifty years old and I can’t get the words of mye sister in law out of my head to this day. Even though I know they were wrong. I wasn’t dumb, I was teenage chubby, I modeled in my twenties…and though sometimes lacking motivation for reasons I can’t quite put my finger on, I am not lazy. Yes things you are told when you are young and vulnerable stick with you for the rest of your LIFE! I have forgiven myself most of my failings but it is hard not to be able to submit a book I have written because I can bear the thought of failure…

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