Chapter 1

The Importance of Self Esteem

Over the course of the past 19 years, as a life-optimization, business-productivity, and personal-effectiveness coach, I have had the privilege of personally coaching more than one thousand people to make their lives work more optimally. As a result of these coaching sessions, I have been able to gain great insight into what it takes to be maximally effective with others, most productive in business, and what is generally necessary to achieve fulfillment and happiness. I have noticed that whenever there was struggle and suffering, when scarcity thinking took precedence over one’s ability to attract abundance, when conflict and broken relationships were present, when abusive, addictive, or emotionally taxing behaviors were the norm, whenever people struggled in their communication and in their relationships, when health issues diminished the quality of one’s life experience, and in short, whenever all the things people don’t want to attract into their lives characterized the realities of my coaching clients, one common denominator was typically present.

That underlying factor is lacking self-esteem.

Studies show that high self-esteem is the number one ingredient essential for developing happiness, fulfillment, rich relationships, and overall success in life. My definition of what comprises high self-esteem is more encompassing than most. It starts with personal power, which is our ability to produce an intended result with velocity. In other words, people possessing high self-esteem have the ability to envision a goal or accomplishment and know that they can manifest it deliberately and with confidence. Those possessing personal power also have the ability to influence others. They know that this gift can translate into making bold requests, using their charisma to get their agendas heard, or otherwise doing whatever it takes to bring about their desired results.

In addition to possessing personal power, those with high self-esteem have an air of competence. They are in control of their lives and expect success. Their positive expectation of a bright future marked by rich relationships, abundance, happiness, and fulfillment creates within them the self-motivation essential to bring about their vision for each aspect of their lives on purpose. They feel like they can control their destinies rather than be at the affect of the whims of others and the random assaults of what others lacking in self-esteem might see as a cruel and punishing world.

Those with high self-esteem also feel significant. They matter to others and have the attention and affection of many. They love freely and are loved in return and know that there is no shortage of love, friendship, riches, blessings, fun, and fulfillment. These and all the other blessings they desire are all around them, ready for their taking. An exciting world overflowing with possibilities and opportunities lies ahead for them and they know it and take advantage of the abundance, fun, and loving relationships awaiting them!

High self-esteem people are also comfortable with who they are. They are virtuous and feel good about themselves from a moral perspective. They know that they are intrinsically good (as are others) and they take pride in their communications and relationships, knowing well that they have much to offer and contribute to others. Their actions are consistent with their values and they have integrity. Their words reflect their intentions and they walk their talk. They are proud of who they are and realize the contribution they represent to the others and to the world.

Just as importantly, those possessing high self-esteem have an appreciation for others. They look at others with empathy, realizing that life must be characterized by win-win relationships because what hurts others hurts us as well. They have an appreciation for what it must be like in the other person’s shoes. They realize that people do the best they know how to do consistent with how they see the world.

Unlike those who are ego-driven, high self-esteem people respect others, rather than focus on just what is in it for them. All too often, people mistakenly confuse high ego for high self-esteem. The two could not be more dissimilar. In fact, those with a selfish preoccupation for only themselves typically lack self-esteem as they fail to consider the importance of mutuality and respect for the rights and needs of others. These egotists are not aware of respecting the needs of others and so they, by definition, lack self-esteem in that arena. For one to truly possess high self-esteem, he or she must respect the rights and needs of others. Therefore, egomaniacs, self-centered individuals, bullies, and those who violate others − although they may appear self-confident − lack true self-esteem.

For one to possess high self-esteem, he or she must feel significant and virtuous, possess empathy for others, and display personal power and competence in all six key areas of life. These areas include health and appearance, relationships, occupation or business, the ability to attract wealth and be in control of one’s finances, personal and spiritual development, and the ability to have fun, play, and pursue one’s passions. Those lacking the ability to make their lives work optimally in any of these areas may possess situational self-esteem. It can be commonplace for one to possess high self-esteem in one area (like business) while lacking self-esteem in another (such as relationships.) However, because all areas of life are connected, diminished levels of self-esteem in one area invariably carry over to sabotage other areas. For this reason, it is important that one approach life with a perspective that embraces whole thinking. This means that because all areas of life are intertwined, true happiness, abundance, fulfillment, and success in all areas is the ultimate goal of an integrated life.

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31 Ways to Champion Children to Develop High Self-Esteem – An Empowerment Guidebook for Parents, Teachers & Others

With this book you will:

• Learn the difference between high self-esteem and high ego
• Discover the origins of low self-esteem and how to best support children to overcome early challenges
• Learn the one thing that will most effectively build belief and self-confidence in children
• Acquire the antidote to negative self-talk
• Realize the secret to becoming an extraordinary role model for children
• Discover the three keys to healing and completing the painful past
• Uncover the answer to reversing depression and self-pity
• Develop the tools to impart soaring self-esteem and self-confidence effortlessly
• Learn how to support children to discover and develop their gifts
• Be taught the daily exercise that allows children to maximize their effectiveness with others
• Learn the secret to supporting children to live with passion and enthusiasm
• Discover the secret to forever eliminating upsets from children’s lives
• Learn what to do when you or your child makes a significant mistake
• Develop the tools essential to guarantee a happy and fulfilling life
• Learn the art of visioning and how it can transform a child’s life
• Develop the secret that will turn goal setting from a chore to a pleasure
• Be able to teach children the life-changing tool that will allow them to instantly diffuse their anger, forever free them from depression and turn fear into excitement and positive expectation
• Know how to best support children to ensure good grades and maximize their likelihood of success
• Show children how to differentiate between making convenient choices and those that align with their commitments
• Get the ability to help children put an end to procrastination once and for all
• Discover how to empower children to stay fit and healthy
• Learn when to give in and when to be firm
• Acquire the skill of empowering your life and the lives of the children you impact
• Learn the one key ingredient to banish suffering for good
• Understand the secret to eliminating selfishness and egotism
• Be taught how to support others to train their thoughts to empower their lives
• Discover the secret to avoiding excessive and compulsive behaviors
• Be able to teach others the key ingredient essential to avoid disappointment in life
• Acquire the key to enhancing charisma and personal effectiveness
• Learn the secret to achieving daily breakthroughs in every area of life
• Be able to teach children how to maximize their personal effectiveness
• Learn the art of empowering children to be their best
• And much more!

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Within all human beings, no matter what part of the world they’re from, what their environment has been, what culture they come from, what their religious tradition is, there lives a certain kind of greatness. Everyone knows that this greatness lives within them. We call it different things, but the bottom line is that we all have a central wish to be as good, true, kind, and as profitable a human being that we can be. It’s in our very DNA. And that divine code if you will, is the same in every human being. We just dress it differently.

Within every individual there lives a wish to embody something grand, beautiful, kind, true, and loving. None of us , no matter where you go in the world, can escape the need we have to realize the truth of ourselves. And this longing we have to be free, to know ourselves, and to express ourselves, was given to us by something sacred. Nothing in the world has the right to take it away from us.

We all have common needs: the need to love; to grow as human beings; to continually perfect ourselves; and to integrate our lives with the universe around us. These needs are common to all of us, regardless of the place in the world we live in or the discipline we grew up with. The commonality of these needs means they were placed in us by something that came before our culture Ð that came before our religious backgrounds and traditions.

It is honoring the true needs we have as human beings that places us in relationship with that which put those needs within us, that places us in relationship with that which transcends all boundaries, that transcends all of the moralities and the mores, and all the other things that currently govern and divide human beings. If you know the truth of yourself, you will find freedom, because to know the truth of yourself is to come back into relationship with these essential needs that were put in us so that we could discover our connection with something that is timeless.

We share an uncommon possibility as human beings, which arises from the fact that we all share common heartaches. No matter where you go in the world, you’ll find men and women in one way or another whose dreams have been broken, who have lost something that they love or someone they love, who have a regret or a disappointment that they’re unable to shake free from.

As a rule, when we meet people with problems, the first thing we tend to do is distance ourselves from them because “I already have enough pain.”  But we can start to understand that in the truest sense of the word, this man or this woman is in fact a celestial brother or sister because we have the same needs. And if I am going to be able to help another human being  to hear, to understand, to bring any light whatsoever into the heart or mind of another individual. I do so because I have found that understanding first in myself. And the extent to which I am capable of adding some light to the life of another human being, is the extent to which I have first found that light in myself, and know that we all hold that light in common. In that common sharing of a new understanding lies the uncommon possibility for a transcendent life that we all have as human beings.

There have been great individuals in the past who have truly helped and changed mankind,  individuals like Christ, Buddha, and Mohammed. Compared to them, our efforts to help one or two people discover the truth of themselves and their connection to the sacred may seem insignificant. But one of the most beautiful things you will ever learn is that no one on this earth is more important than you,  not important because other people say you’re important, or because you have some social standing or you own possessions that lend you a sense of power, but because it is the individual who changes the world.

Long before there was Christianity, or Buddhism, or Taosim, or Hinduism, or Islam, or any other religion, there was an individual who felt compelled to learn the truth of himself in response to a need seeded in him by the celestial. When that individual was touched by what he had reached for,  and that was reaching for him, then he brought forth what he discovered within himself. And those discoveries became what we now call the world religions. They all started with an individual. And each of us, in our own way, and in scale, is meant to do the same thing.

Add to that this one important and beautiful idea: You cannot add a measure of light to any measure of darkness that doesn’t change the darkness everywhere. This is a law in physics. How much more true is it when it comes to us and the world we live in? If I understand a truth, if I embody it, if I become the instrument of that awareness, then wherever I go, whatever I do, no matter who I’m with or what is taking place, the very discovery and relationship I have to that little bit of light in myself changes everything around me, and the Universe itself.

What is really empowering is the recognition that this little bit of understanding, this little bit of awareness, this little love we may have for what is true and timeless, changes all human beings, makes it possible for all creatures on this earth to have a different order of being. It is possible because the being of the individual changes first, and then that higher being is all there is.

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(Excerpted from The Seeker, The Search, The Sacred: Journey to the Greatness Within; Weiser Books)

Guy Finley is the best-selling author of more than 40 books and audio albums on self-realization. He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York and is a regular expert contributor to Beliefnet and the Huffington Post. For more information visit www.guyfinley.org, and sign up to receive a free helpful newsletter emailed to your desktop once each week.

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I hope that this free session helps you understand that the world, for the most part, mirrors back to you, through other people, the feelings you have about yourself. The world is your oyster and you are the pearl!

If you want to use Reflection Therapy© to the fullest, please be prepared to allow yourself to first accept whatever you are feeling. As you know, acceptance is the first step to transformation. Sometimes we deny what we are feeling because we think we shouldn’t feel that way, or we’ve been told not to express “negative” feelings. Whatever you are feeling is okay. There are no good or bad emotions; it’s how you choose to act on them. If you’ve behaved in a way that leaves you experiencing discomfort, then you can choose to act differently next time.

We all have a strong desire to lie to ourselves; usually for protection. We wear masks in front of our social peers, work colleagues and even our families. We sometimes deny the possibility of being capable of certain “bad” feelings toward another person and in so doing we are not accepting that part of ourselves that needs to be brought out into the Light. These parts must be recognized and accepted in order to be a whole being (living life to the fullest).

We resonate with each other via frequencies. For example when a train goes by and the chandelier in your dining room shakes, it’s because the two have resonated on the same frequency. When you tune in to a loved one’s voice and blank out the rest of the noise around you, that’s resonating. If there’s a particular word that really bothers us we’re resonating to what that means to us. It may be a perfectly innocent word to someone else, but it strikes a chord in us (it’s resonated to us). It’s like listening to the radio, there are many stations all playing at one time but we will resonate to the one we tune into. The others still exist we just don’t hear them. Have you ever decided to buy a new car and you settle on looking for a blue sports car? Over the next few days you start to notice other people driving a blue sports car. Or you become pregnant and now it seems most of the women you meet are pregnant. That’s the resonation in you that’s bringing it forward into your conscious mind through other people. They had the blue sports car, and they were expecting a baby, you just weren’t resonating with them so you didn’t notice them. You “changed the station” and tuned into blue sports cars.

Knowing this, if you want to uncover how you feel about yourself, look around. Sometimes it feels that loving, helpful people close to you & sometimes you seem surrounded by those who choose to see the world as an angry, unsafe place. It is a choice, albeit perhaps unconscious, but what and who surrounds us, for the most part, reflects what we are feeling inside of ourselves.

Think of a person that has affected you and then see how their behavior is mirrored in you.

At the beginning this may sound harsh; you may think “but I don’t get angry and shout at people in traffic jams”. What’s likely happening is that person is resonating the base feeling of that outburst back to you. You may not be angry with the traffic jam, but the feeling of frustration that person is displaying likely resonates to a situation that is close to you. Perhaps you haven’t thought of it for a while, or you have pushed it down so as not to deal with it, but with insight you realize you are feeling frustrated. The basic rule of thumb is – if you have a highly charged emotional reaction to something or someone (negative or positive), then that reaction is resonating to a deep belief you hold. The deeper the reaction, the deeper the emotion held within you.

I am not suggesting we behave like an enlightened guru. I am suggesting that you start by looking at a small emotional issue you may be noticing with someone around you. For example, is there a co-worker with whom you have a difficult relationship? Is your partner or family member getting on your nerves?

Your emotional response is not to be judged “negative” or “positive”. For the purpose of this free session, there is no need to review the detailed content or story of the emotion, just the clarity of what the emotion is (for example frustration).

There are huge benefits to this. Negative emotions take up a lot of energy. They can drain us of energy that could be put to better use, for example following up on a lifelong dream you’ve had. You can’t be feeling positive and negative at the exact same time. One has to predominate over the other. So if you’re filling a large amount of our thoughts with negativity, there’s not much room left for other stuff.

You may begin to realize that everything and everyone around you is a reflection of how you perceive your world and therefore you can take note of how you are judging those around you. Easier said than done, but even if you begin slowly with just a few perceptions, you can then proceed at your own speed to fully realize you can affect the way the world is because it is the way you perceive it that makes it real for you.

You begin to embrace your”self” and allow others to take their own journey at their own speed. With tolerance of others, you have tolerance for yourself.

TRY THIS EXPERIENTIAL PART (Alone or with a trusted friend)

Start with your form of protection; – White Light, angels, guardian, loved one, God’s Light, whatever resonates for you and makes you feel comfortable and safe.

Think of one example of an emotional reaction you just had and jot it down. It can be a positive or negative reaction, but for now it’s easier to focus on the negative because that’s probably the one you’d like to change. Now ask yourself the following questions:

What am I feeling? Make sure you get as close to the bottom of the feeling barrel as you can. You may think you’re feeling anger when in fact once you follow that feeling through you may discover it’s a feeling of jealousy or some form of abandonment. These feelings can be brought out into the open for you to begin working with. In the meantime though, you will have realized that person was just showing you what you need to look at. You can then come to a place of gratitude to that person for showing you that idea you were resisting that was causing you pain, conscious or unconscious.

One of the laws of the Universe is that once you have recognized that emotion which needs to be dealt with, that person “changes” or “leaves”. If you think the person has changed, it means you have changed your perception and are now resonating differently. If the person leaves your life, you have no further need for that relationship as you have resolved, or at the very least recognized the emotion or judgment that you have been holding about yourself.

Depending on the depth or severity of this judgment, or depending on whether you have got the lesson, another person may or may not come along and show you the same message. This is why so many women who start off with a bad relationship, go from one bad relationship to another because they do not yet understand what it is about themselves they need to change. I’m not suggesting the type of change to please her partner. I’m speaking of the change within herself; learning her boundaries, likes, dislikes, dreams and desires for her life. So one bad relationship ends, the woman feels great and tells herself the next time it will be different because that guy was a jerk. But, unless she spends the time to learn who she is and what she wants, and why she behaves the way she does, it will be difficult to heal and she’ll likely end up with the same lesson (jerk) just in different disguise.

It helps if you can look at these people that you feel are “negative” as helpful guardians/angels not as strictly bad relationships. They have the potential to teach you a valuable lesson about how you feel about yourself.

Let me give you a personal example. Some time ago there was a woman where I worked that drove me crazy. I actually felt that I hated her, which in turn made me feel bad for being capable of that kind of hatred. I kept blaming her; calling her every name in the book, disgusted with the way she spoke, looked, worked, etc. I saw her as sneaky and conniving. Finally one day I began to realize I can’t make exceptions to my own rule of Reflection Therapy©. I can’t look at the other situations in my life and track the emotion back to me, while disregarding the resonance to her. She touched one of my deepest feelings and that’s why it took so long to face it.

I realized that I was jealous of her ability to have a well paying job with 1/3rd the work that I do. She’s manipulative, conniving and sneaky. Then I asked myself if ever I was manipulative, conniving or sneaky in the past or in the present, or could I see myself being that way in the future. Once I could admit that I could and probably have behaved that way, I was able to release the negative emotions attached to her. What I discovered was that she reflected back to me how I’d manipulated myself to stay in bad relationships. I was always conniving about how I can please the man I was with to keep him with me. In that way I could stay the victim, blaming his bad behavior for my unhappy life. Had I not had the courage to look at those emotions being shown to me by the girl at work, I would simply have attracted another man with bad behavior.

There’s always a part of you that’s trying to show you where you can grow. We all have resistance, that’s natural; I certainly did. We may start to feel like all we are is a bunch of negative emotions. That’s when its time to take stock of who around us is loving, kind, generous and realize that they too are reflecting back to us what we are holding within us!

Here’s a couple of interesting exercises you can try.

Grab a piece of paper and pen. Look at the next few words: heavy traffic; sandwich; love; touch. See if any of these words create a strong reaction in you. Just go through and choose the one you react to most. Now take that word and look at where you have that feeling. Jot it down so you can review it later. Now ask yourself…what is the scene? Who is there? What’s happening? Bring that scene to the forefront of your mind and try to label it one emotion – for example frustration. Now take a few moments to relax and look inside yourself and ask when was the last time you felt that way? What was the situation, who is there, what’s going on? Jot down those answers.

You don’t need to review them now; you can look at them later. For now I want you keep your mind on the exercise and away from analyzing. When you think you are ready, take a few moments and see what you can learn from it.

Another exercise is to think of someone that’s driving you crazy right now. It can be a loved one, a TV personality, or even a fictional character. On a sheet of paper, put a line down the middle and write the word “positive” on one side and “negative on the other”. Put 3 positive traits about this person on one side of the paper and 3 negative traits on the other (without the person’s name). Now in front of each characteristic write the words “I am…” Notice how these characteristics resonate inside of you. If you don’t think you can find that in yourself right now, remember a time when you did display that characteristic.

All you need to do here is admit to yourself that you do have that inside you and then you become free to choose to work on it or not; either way there’s no need to blame another. You have the ability to empower yourself.

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A friend recently sent me a link to learn more about Project Forgive and halfway through watching the short movie I just knew that I wanted in…

from the site…

Life happens.

We lose our jobs, we face bankruptcy and foreclosure. Some of us are dealing with a divorce, others of us are facing life threatening illnesses such as cancer. Culturally, we see deep political fighting, immigration issues, war, despair and violence. In the face of all this, how can we find the courage to forgive and cause a new realm of possibility, a new conversation?

We want to find out, so we’re making a documentary that will dive into a simple, yet complicated inquiry. The film will include exquisite stories of courageous forgiveness from celebrities, thought leaders, and people whose stories have yet to be told. Just like the one that inspired us to create the film.

I have been sitting here attempting to come up with the “right” words to motivate you to visit…

Project Forgive

and to get involved – either by sharing your stories, backing the movie, or just by passing the link along to everyone you know…

This project is sooooooo important – especially in these chaotic times.  I work with so many people who come to me with the poison of unforgiveness clouding their ability to live their Highest and Best Lives – and a poison it is.  Holding grudges, feeling “wronged”, doesn’t just affect the people who have “wronged you” – it slowly poisons you – as well as everyone who cares about you.  It sucks on your energy and motivation, it turns the world gray, and held long enough it will make you sick

By getting involved in a project like this one we can make a difference – in all of our lives…

So get involved with Project Forgive  – and then come back and share with us your own forgiveness stories…..

please

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I have a passion for rapid personal growth. Since most of us transform our lives relatively slowly (if at all), there’s a real benefit to knowing how to make transformations quickly. Since we have a limited time on Earth then it serves us to know how to optimize our lives. This doesn’t mean that it’s in our best interests to always be pushing ourselves to be faster, better, and more. That’s not what I’m suggesting. What I am suggesting is that if life is our schoolroom, how can we make the most effective use of that experience? How can we allow life to serve us as fully as possible?

One way is to “force the issue.” Or to phrase it differently: We can enter into situations in which a learning experience with growth is the inevitable, eventual, and guaranteed outcome of a particular experience. We could go into those situations both willingly and unwillingly. For example, we experience this during times of extreme duress when our preferred outer-world options are limited or even eliminated. It could come in the form of being fired from work, the death of a loved one or a relationship that ends, an unexpectedly severe and debilitating illness, or any other number of unwanted yet extreme situations.

These “force” us to choose either a path of growth or a path of destruction. We’ll learn from both directions. That’s inevitable. It’s eventual. And growth is a guaranteed outcome. It may not be growth as we think of it in a “positive” sense. Destruction might cause us to go into a place so dark that whatever we learn is pushed down into our subconscious. Still, learning happens through every experience. The more extreme the experience, the more severe it is, the greater the growth.

Ideally as we live a more conscious life, the path of destruction fades away and growth comes to the forefront. Rather than curl up into a ball and wait for the metaphorical pounding to stop, we can stand up and step forward. This is not easy. It takes a lot of courage, willpower, and strength. It takes dedication to your growth. And it is incredibly rewarding.

On the other hand, what if you don’t have to wait for life to hand you those situations? What if you could create them yourselves?

You can. One way is to limit your options. This is a way to “force the issue” in your daily life. Here’s a few examples…

Eating healthier: Throw away all your unhealthy food. Buy healthy food.

Breaking an addiction: Get rid of what you’re addicted to. Lock it up. Hide it. Do anything you can to make it incredibly difficult to access.

Starting a new business: Quit your job.

Getting some rest and relaxation: Tell your employer (and anybody else necessary) you’re taking a day or few off.

Need a Vacation: Pay for as much non-refundable costs in advance as you can.

Now to be clear, I’m not advocating you do any of those things. Especially not all at once! I’m only listing them as examples as to how limiting your options “forces” you to grow. When you limit options, it creates an inner discomfort that must be reconciled. There’s a tension within that must be released or suppressed. Suppression forces the learning into the subconscious (like the “destructive” examples above). On the other hand, releasing the tension is what causes the growth.

For example, if you are trying to eat healthier then you’ll feel a tension between wanting to go out and find unhealthy food to eat instead of eating what you have. Pay attention to that tension. It could become so extreme that you ignore your healthy food and go out to eat some “Soul Food.” Or perhaps you’re trying to break a chocolate addiction, so you locked all your chocolate into a box and intentionally forgot the combination to open it. Then you decide to drive to the store at midnight and buy the first chocolate bar you see. Or you could go the other route: Actually take the non-refundable vacation and get rest and relaxation.

The outcome is actually not all that important. Whether you break the addiction, take the vacation, or eat healthier… it’s largely irrelevant. What’s relevant is that you remain conscious and present while you’re going through that experience. For example, you might not like who you become as you rampage through the online food directory looking for the greasiest unhealthy food you can find. You might not like how out of control you feel. And what if your car breaks down on the way?

All those outer challenges will give you an important inner reference. Specifically, how far are you willing to go to remain comfortable? To what will you go to to maintain your old life? To get what it is that you’ve intentionally deprived yourself of?

When you “force the issue” what you’re really doing is exploring how deeply ingrained something is in your psyche. The more effort you are willing to put forth to “get” whatever it is you’ve limited from yourself, the more inner growth you’ll need to support the changes you want to make. Being present and aware of this tension is what creates the growth. When the tension remains subconscious, outer growth doesn’t manifest in your life. So the awareness you bring to the tension is a way that whatever was subconscious becomes conscious. Then you know you are -choosing- the path you take of your own free will.

It’s helpful to start with something small. Perhaps make sure that on Fridays you are always going out to eat lunch with coworkers you know who only eat healthy food. Wherever you go, you know you’ll be “Forced” to eat food that’s better for your body. Then as you get comfortable with the small changes, you can work up to bigger ones.

I recall how I “forced” the issue to stop drinking caffeine. First, I replaced all my soda intake with Sprite. Then years later, I replaced Sprite with Water and Milk. Now I drink a good amount of water each and every day. My water bottle goes with me wherever I go. It didn’t start that way though. It started by making sure I got rid of caffeinated drinks that I liked. No access. By extension, I “forced” the change I wanted to experience in my life.

Find something in your life you’d like to change. Start small. Give “forcing the issue” a try. And See what you discover…

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These days you can hardly go through any articles, books, DVDs, movies, films, documentaries with regard to self-improvement or self-help without coming across at least one mentioning of some ‘Universal Law’. Suddenly, there appears to be a Universal Law for anything. Like we haven’t got enough Laws to deal with already!

There is truth to these ‘Universal Laws’, but in most cases, a little nuance is in place. Please read along, as the remainder of this article will clear it all up.

There are Universal Laws that guide your life behind the scenes of ‘physical reality’. These are actually rather ‘universal principles of life’. That would be a more appropriate qualification.

However, the qualification of ‘Universal Law’ has taken on a life of its own. The word ‘Law’ appears to be a magic word… Almost a magic wand that casts a spell on anyone who reads it that puts them in a hypnotized state thinking that what it says must be true. After all, it’s a ‘Law’ isn’t it? A ‘Law’ is always right. No more thinking required.

Today, subjects like the ‘Law of Attraction’ are at an all-time high of popularity. We’ve got the movie ‘The Secret’ and a whole big bunch of people trying to leverage on it by proclaiming themselves as ‘experts in the field of the Law of Attraction’, or ‘masters of attraction’. Yes, there’s that magic word (wand) again.

And simply because people seem to like ‘Universal Laws’, every now and then a new ‘Universal Law’ makes its entrance. People come up with new ‘Universal Laws’ all the time. And likewise, new ‘experts on the Law of Attraction’ and ‘masters of attraction’ proclaim themselves every day.

Yet despite so many people having seen the movie ‘The Secret’ and knowing about the Law of Attraction, there is only a very, very small number of people who are actually living the life of their dreams, or ‘attracting their desires’, or ‘manifesting their dreams’. Yes those are some other ‘magic words’ from today’s common terminology.

How come? How come, with all that knowledge, with all those ‘Universal Laws’ already written and told about, and with all those new ‘Universal Laws’, ‘Spiritual Laws of the Universe’, ‘Subsidiary Laws’ and so on coming about each and every day on the Internet and elsewhere… How come that all the people buying those books, DVDs, movies, films, documentaries, and so on, are still not ‘attracting their desires’ or ‘manifesting their dreams’?

I’ll tell you why. Most people have heard something about it, but have no real knowledge about the matter. They are aware of the fact that there are ‘Universal Laws’, or rather ‘universal principles of life’ that work behind the scenes and guide the courses of their lives.

However, most people have lost track, because so many who think they know what they’re talking about (while they don’t) come up with these new ‘Universal Laws’ all the time. There may be some truth to all these different ‘Universal Laws’. But what they really do for genuine seekers for the truth like yourself is not much more than making things way too difficult and complex to apply.

And if that isn’t enough already, often another big problem comes up when you start reading about the ‘Law of Attraction’ and the ‘Laws of the Universe’. The ‘experts’ who speak or write about them tend to do that in such an overly symbolic fashion, that few well-thinking people can make any practical sense of it. What you find is nothing but ‘enigmas wrapped in riddles’.

Listen, there are universal principles of life. ‘Universal Laws’ if you will. However, when it comes to applying them to your advantage, we are in desperate need for some clarity.

Let me show you what I mean. I can come up with hundreds of ‘Universal Laws’ if I want. Here’s a couple of them…

Introducing the Universal Law of Ping Pong

It says you have to use ping pong balls if you want to play table tennis.

Introducing the Universal Law of Rain

It says that when it rains, things get wet.

Disappointing, eh? But they did sound interesting at first, right?

See what’s happening here? The mere qualification of ‘Universal Law’ makes the statement sound interesting already, while the true deeper meaning of the ‘Universal Law’ is nothing more than a standard, blindingly obvious platitude.

So let me give you another Universal Law right now, to satisfy your probably insatiable need (or so you may think) for knowledge of all ‘Universal Laws’ to improve your life, ‘attract your desires’, and ‘manifest your dreams’ once and for all:

Introducing the Universal Law of Bollocks

It says that it’s all bollocks.

That’s right, it’s all bollocks. Bollocks! There are universal principles guiding your life. If you want, you can call them ‘Universal Laws’. I’ve done so in my books and articles, because that’s what people are looking for these days. If I would apply other terminology, people would never even be looking at it. Simply because they think they need ‘Laws’.

But it’s all bollocks, because before this whole game we call ‘human life’ started, we didn’t get an instruction manual on how life was supposed to be lived. We didn’t get a Code of Law full of ‘thou shalt nots’. The purpose of the whole thing was to find out the universal principles and realize that through applying these principles, YOU can have full control over whatever it is you want to create. The purpose of the whole thing was to find out that the world ‘outside’ is only a mirror showing what’s going on ‘inside’. All this time, the whole thing has been about finding out that you create your reality experience yourself.

Yes, that’s right, you ‘create’, which is much more than ‘attracting’. But that’s something you’ll discover as you get more experienced in the conscious living of your life and in the engineering your own success by applying the true and simple universal principles of life.

Or yes, ‘Laws’ if you will.

What you call ‘good’ and ‘bad’ are qualifications of your own. You are the one who deems things to be ‘good’ or ‘bad’. That’s merely a judgment from your individual perspective. When you’re not satisfied with your reality experience, you need to create something else that you are satisfied with.

For many, this is where the Law of Attraction comes in. According to most, this one states that what you focus your thoughts on becomes your reality. There’s truth to this statement, but there’s more to the story. Positive thinking and visualizing aren’t going to cut it. There are certain boundary conditions to take into account, certain ‘universal principles of life’. Without attending to these conditions, your attraction efforts will be sabotaged. And this is exactly what most people who have seen ‘The Secret’ and have tried to put the ‘Law of Attraction’ into practice are experiencing.

But the last thing you need are instructions that are either overly symbolic, or too complex to apply. What you want to keep things simple and straightforward. Or else you may get lost in the details. You want just enough straightforward knowledge for simple application of the principles, while still having a total view on the big picture that is comprehensive enough to not forget about any universal principle, or Law for that matter.

If you want to make life simple for yourself, to start pulling the right strings at once to create the life and destiny of your dreams, then don’t waste another second on trying to find out every small, detailed, insignificant ‘Universal Law’ someone came up with today. You’ll be like a cat chasing its own tail: a never-ending story that leaves you exhausted and depressed.

Neither should you merely think positive thoughts and then wait for things to happen. There’s a little more to it. Just a little, nothing complex, but still extremely important.

Just keep it simple. There are 6 main Universal Principles (or Laws) that cover all universal principles automatically. Attend to them all, which is a simple thing to do without much effort required, and you’ll be off living more than your dreams before you can even consciously realize you created such an incredible experience!

Keep it straightforward and easy-to-apply. The game of life wasn’t intended to be complex and difficult. The game was supposed to be simple and easy, and most of all FUN!

And there’s a simple road to it, and it’s just a small decision away.

Welcome to the Revolution.

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Nicholas P. Kidd and Henk J.M. Schram are the instigators of the alleged ‘Great Revolution’, which provides the members with truthful instructions regarding the universal principles of life.

The Revolution is receiving increasingly widespread attention for its straightforward explanations and instructions with regard to complex issues, which are made understandable for people from all walks of life. In essence, the true secrets of the ‘Law of Attraction’ and the other ‘Universal Laws’ are explained in much clearer and practical ways than the ‘enigmas wrapped in riddles’ that usually characterize the descriptions of the Law of Attraction and its application.

More information on the Great Revolution, on joining and on the ‘universal principles of life’ (the true ‘Universal Laws’) can be found at Revolutioniz.

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Personal Identity

The idea that we’re each a drop of water in the ocean can be compelling in some ways. The typical perspective offered in Buddhism postulates that we are drops of water, individualized but for a moment from the greater sea that is the total of all-that-is. I get the idea of immersion, being one with the One. I don’t, however, see that as requiring the surrender of my self, and isn’t a healthy ego necessary for my identification? I’ve said before that an ego out of control fits the 12-step-program interpretation of the word: Edging God Out. But a healthy ego is who we are.

I know myself in many ways, chiefly as an experience, as I’ve already discussed. In that sense, I expect that the word ego doesn’t really apply in its traditional form. For as a verb instead of a noun, I am my experiences—always in motion, dynamic as opposed to static, changing as opposed to immutable, expanding as opposed to contracting, and forever young in every instance as opposed to aging. Still, even in this view, I have a self-concept, and from this spring my lessons, alternatives, choices, likes, and dislikes. This is identity, and it’s absolutely attached to the experience, even if part of that is letting go in order to proceed in a new and different way in some other dimension of existence.

I’m totally unaware of any near-death experiences (NDE) in which the survivor tells of being immersed and losing all sense of identification. It’s possible, however, to lose our sense of being, to become so involved in the moment that we lose ourselves. That may be what immersion really is. Getting lost in the experience, whether on this plane or another, is experience at its highest.

For me, the analogy of a drop of water in the ocean is fitting when I think of losing myself in the moment. To do that, I must truly choose to engage in everything life brings to me, and that can’t be done while unattached. I become the experience by being fully aware of what’s happening in each moment. In doing so I can let go of my expectations, for as long as I hold them, I can’t be fully present.

Words can be tricky, and ideas can become puzzles, whereas definitions can and do delimit our understanding of all that we care enough to think about. When many of these concepts are distilled, there remain a few constants. One of them is simply this: immersing ourselves in the experience of life gives rise to understanding that we could otherwise never grasp. The little miracles are not only noticed but fully integrated into our journey. The sadness that comes along is recognized for what it is, but this doesn’t rob us of hope, for we’re not hanging onto some expectation in the moment. Setting about each day with the idea that it’s a miracle—that every moment is a wondrous opportunity to glimpse yet another spectacular exchange in the nature of life, a grand time for fully immersing ourselves in the experience—approaches heaven on earth here and now.

The Gift

I believe that every breath is a gift, and what you do with that is the only way you can pay tribute to the Giver. I believe that you were meant to have faith in yourself and that you deserve to know an unlimited cornucopia of abundance in all the good things this life has to offer. When you trust in yourself, you turn the key in the lock that opens the door to manifesting your true potential. You aren’t going to take anything with you out of here except your experiences. And notice that it’s you I believe in—and that calls for the distinctly unique individual that you are—not some generalization. Perhaps I’m attached to an idea of being unattached, at least to an outcome, yet as with everyone else, I’m also committed to being uniquely me. In the end, if I weren’t invested in anything, including my experience and ideas, then who would I be?

In the words of novelist Virginia Woolf, “[It] is like a spider’s web, attached ever so slightly perhaps, but still attached to life at all four corners. Often the attachment is scarcely perceptible”⁴ (emphasis added).

Reflection

So what is it that you believe? Do you think that the goal of a spiritual life is to overcome the illusion of separateness, to lose your sense of identity and so to return to the oneness? Or do you believe that this life and your individuality are amazing gifts that should be treasured and experienced to the fullest? Should you be attached to outcomes, or should you focus on doing your best and then detaching? Which beliefs would serve you best?

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The greatest, most abundant resource on planet Earth is also its least understood and utilized. Its unlimited supply is found virtually everywhere, anytime, and under all circumstances, even though few recognize its real value. What is this most precious collective resource? It is our relationships.

Consider these truths: It is within relationships that we grow as individuals in everything valuable; because it is through them that we become stronger and wiser, allowing us to realize a love that transcends our unseen self-limiting self-interests. Yet, even though we may acknowledge the existence of this path to self-perfection, the essential mystery of exactly how to use this endless resource remains obscured.

What do we have to do to change the balance sheet of our lives so that for every measure of impatience and intolerance there may be at least an equivalent sum of compassion and consideration? How do we learn to use our relationships with others to realize a new kind of relationship with ourselves wherein we are able to discover that who we really are is all we need to be?

Your willingness to work your way through the twelve special practices of the following inner exercise — to strive to employ these higher ideals in your relationships with others — will reward you with the Real Life your heart longs for. The main thrust of these special practices is to show you how to use each developing moment in your relationships with family, friends, and coworkers to consciously change your relationship with yourself. Only a moment’s consideration will show us the wisdom of this unusual inner work.

With few exceptions, the usual focus of our attention and interactions with others is centered on our self and the fulfillment of its desires. “How do I feel about you?” “What do I want from him?” or “When will she realize that I know best?” In other words, the mindset of the false self, under most circumstances, is “Me first.” By forever placing its own considerations before considering any other, it remains the master of its own universe, even if all that revolves through it is its own imagined importance.

The great inner life lesson to be learned in working with the following twelve suggested practices is that what we put first in our lives is our first relationship with life. And it is this relationship that secretly determines the nature of all others in our lives. Through our willingness to work at placing our usual self in “second place,” we agree not only to change the way we see our relationships, but we have also agreed to be changed by the truths our new relationships will inevitably show us about us.

- Be as alert to what you can do to help someone else in any given moment as you are critically aware of others for failing to notice your immediate needs.

- Let anyone who wants to psychologically defeat you have his victory, and do it without revealing that you chose to give him the last word.

- In any moment of consequence, be as willing to see that you may be wrong as you are convinced that you are always right.

- Do whatever act of kindness you may be moved to do for another person without drawing attention to your deed, or to yourself for having done it.

- Look for ways to make moments work to the advantage of someone else besides yourself.

- When gathered with friends or family, instead of competing for the spotlight, voluntarily help to shine it on someone whom you know its light will emotionally lift or otherwise encourage.

- Even when you know that you are solidly in the right, rather than rub it in, sacrifice your righteousness.

- Should a sarcastic or unkind remark pop into your mind to tease, torment, or in any way “trash” another person, try swallowing it first to see how it tastes before you dish it out.

- Whatever it might be when your “moment in the sun” arisesÑsuch as being acknowledged or applauded for a deed well doneÑif you have the choice, give the best or better portion away.

- Let there be times when you don’t tell someone everything you know about her problem, even if your understanding of it is better than hers.

- When feeling displeased with someone, don’t show your displeasure, and save any necessary correction for a later time.

- There are times when the greatest strength (and kindness) one can possess is to allow another his weakness without pointing it out or otherwise punishing him for it.

Just a few last thoughts about this exercise to take with you: Remember that all spiritual practices are a means to self-discovery, and that discouragement, or any form of frustration, are secret indicators of some end we have in mind that has been thwarted. Lastly, keep in mind that everything true we discover about ourselves enlarges our relationship with life, and that there is no end to these relationships … just as Real Life is endless.

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(Excerpted from Seeker’s Guide to Self-Freedom, Llewellyn)

Guy Finley is the best-selling author of more than 40 books and audio albums on self-realization. He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. For more information visit www.guyfinley.org, and sign up to receive a free helpful newsletter emailed to your desktop once each week.

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Within each of us lives something Light, Bright, and Timeless that wants to grant us our true wish. And what is this wish? In a word, it is to have a life that is free, uncluttered by self-compromising acts, and full of love. But the secret heart of this wish, upon which all of our other hopes depend, is to live without fear.

What does it take to live fearlessly? To realize such a Truth requires the highest order of honest self-discovery, followed by earnest actions based in higher awareness. So, let’s take the first step.

How many of us feel frustrated with life, with ourselves, with others, on almost a daily basis? Most of us will admit the truth of this — how, in any given moment, depending upon how things are going, we feel ourselves blocked, incapable, unable, not strong or wise enough in some way to win from life what we wish.

But, what we must discover, if we are to recover our right to live fearlessly, is that the real root of this frustration is not to be found in what the world seems to deny or withhold from us. The real root of our frustration in life is that we know, intuitively, that we are not meant to live with the constant sense of limitation that we do. To understand this important idea we must get right down to fundamentals.

Most of us know that whenever we fall into despair, lose our temper, or relive some past painful regret, we have lost possession of ourselves; we know that negative states limit our freedom because, in their dark “presence,” even our natural power of making proper choices is put to the test. And if our choices in such moments are (at least) in part produced by these self-limiting states, then how can what limits us help to free us of anything? It’s obvious: they cannot. They are the source of our problem, not its solution! What are we to do?

We need true self-knowledge, beginning with a whole new understanding of what it really means to live without limits. What is limitless in life — that which is without end within us — is our God-given potential to transcend limitation. Let’s take a simple example:

Those of us who have ever done some work on strengthening the physical conditioning of our body know that at one point or another it will tell us, “Enough! No more!” We know, by the pain or discomfort we feel, that it is saying it has reached a certain limit beyond which it does not want to go. But, in the same moment, experience knows how the body always complains when it doesn’t want to go further than it’s used to going. So, knowing this pain is just part of what must be paid in order grow stronger, we ignore the “warning” and push on to achieve the higher result we seek. Why do we make this choice? Because we understand, ahead of time, that this limit we have reached is only a temporary one; it is not the end of what it is possible for us to do.

Now, can we see this discovery must hold true regardless of whatever “body” it is in which we encounter such limitation — be it physical, psychological, or spiritual? When we reach the point where parts of us start to feel some kind of pain, some discomfort, it’s not that there isn’t more we could do; no, what limits us here is what we are afraid to go through at that moment.

What makes this kind of fear so powerful? The answer may be hard to believe: Fear’s power over us is nothing more than the way it causes us to forget the truth of ourselves, which is that we are created to eternally transcend the limits of our present nature, to transform who and what we have been in the very moment it ceases to serve the Good of us. But, because we have forgotten this, because we are asleep to its power in us, we are compelled to search for — find, and then believe in — “powers” outside of ourselves that always end up betraying us in our hour of need.

Actualizing our spiritual right to live without fear is not a question of achieving something. It begins with choosing to end a relationship with that which has never been true. So, it isn’t a questions of “What do I do?” but “What must I bring an end to?” Hence, the Christ’s saying: “Whoever shall lose his life shall gain it.”

Here now, for your study and consideration, are three common false beliefs whose unquestioned socially accepted convention serves to both frustrate and limit our natural right to be fearless. Also included are three new actions to take to start living fearlessly.

First of the fear-producing false beliefs: We must prepare — in advance — for everything that might happen to us. The world says it is wise to worry, to stress ourselves over every eventuality, regardless of personal cost to our health, family, or friends. Recall here Christ’s admonition: “Take no thought for the morrow.” The truth is, the more we prepare to be fearless, the more afraid we become!

Here’s the new action to find the fearless life: We must learn what it means to meet every moment awake to what it wants to give to us, instead of living from a fearful imagination that is forever telling us what we stand to lose should we step into the unknown moment before us.

Second of the fear-producing false beliefs: Before we can make those real changes in our lives, the ones that will bring us the freedom we seek, we must first secure the approval of others for our actions. Most of us don’t realize how dependent we are on the approval of others, and how we weigh our life choices on scales that not only belong to others, but that are broken as well.

Here’s the new liberating action: We must learn to detect and reject those unconscious parts of us that would have us believe the freedom for which we long can be found through any kind of popular consensus.

Third of the fear-producing false beliefs: Before we can make — and then act upon — those new decisions needed to give new (and upward) direction to our lives, we must have our own approval. If we observe our thoughts closely, each time we consider striking a long-overdue blow for our freedom, we will see they only give us their consent after having compared our proposed action to what may become of us if we take it.

But here’s the truth and its new fearless action: Who we have been has no interest in helping us shake loose of its inherent limitations. To see the truth of this is to walk away from fear born of negative imagination, and all forms of psychological fear are nothing other than the dark spawn of negative imagination.

Here is one last encouraging, fear-busting fact. The Source of our True Self is Love-in-action; and since Love transforms whatever it touches, any limitation can be transcended given our willingness to test this truth: Our True Self is created to neither serve, nor believe in anything other than the Living Light that is fearlessness itself. Prove this truth to yourself, and you will know its powers.

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Guy Finley is the best-selling author of more than 40 books and audio albums on self-realization. He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. For more information visit www.guyfinley.org, and sign up to receive a free helpful newsletter emailed to your desktop once each week.

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So why are you interested in the ‘Law of Attraction’ anyway?

Obviously, it’s about doing what you really want to do with your life.

We’ve said it repeatedly, quoting the wise man’s adage:

Money and fame do not happiness make.

Of course, they may help in being happy. For example, it’s pretty nice not having to worry about money. Let’s face it… Most people like money. And others like fame, and many like both.

The thing is… money and fame are usually merely external confirmations of the fact that you’re being happy and doing what you want with your life already.

If you are, money and fame are usually no issues anymore. You either don’t care about them because you’re being happy anyway. Or (many times) they may come as side-effects, or symptoms caused by the fact that you’re already being happy with yourself and your life.

That’s where the principle of being happy and grateful for what happens to you and the situation you’re in is relevant.

Clearly, money and fame are really different things compared to the desire for money and fame. The desire for implies that you’re not being happy and grateful right now, thinking you need money and/or fame in order to be happy and do what you want with your life.

This underlying feeling of needing (and thus the deeply-engrained feeling of lack) determines what you send out… the frequency you broadcast if you will. And this frequency ‘attracts’ a like frequency, and this is the mechanism through which needing pushes things away in a very small nutshell.

Anyway, this is something we’ve talked about more at length in other articles, so we’re not going to repeat this anymore.

In this article we want to get into something a bit more concrete… something more practical to use in your life. This might sound simple, but upon deeper thought it may just be the greatest word of advice of all time…

You know, according to the American physicist, philosopher and management expert Danah Zohar, doing what you really want with your life requires what she calls ‘Spiritual Intelligence’. It’s about your own, personal, deeper actuating motives.

Zohar says that self-development and purpose/meaning are principles that are central to spiritual intelligence. When you’re in touch with your own ‘inner universe’, you can develop your talents and give full scope to your natural gifts.

As such, you’ll live the life that fully matches who you are (which is not necessarily the life that others think you’re supposed to live). Within yourself, you’ll discover your own actuating motives and what really inspires and animates you.

Zohar says that when you manage to live your life from that inspiration, you’re quite a happy person. This pretty much connects to what the American psychologist Abraham Maslow (who came up with the so-called ‘hierarchy of needs’ aiming to explain human motivation) called ‘self actualization’.

According to Maslow, self-actualization is the ultimate state of human development, a spiritual condition in which people are creative, ‘playful’, and tolerant. And if you’ve read our books and articles, you know that these are the very conditions that facilitate the extent to which you can ‘work’ the ‘laws of the universe’ (if you want to call them that).

And you know what? There’s actually a specific group of people who can teach us a lot about this state of ‘creativity’, ‘playfullness’ and ‘tolerance’, or rather ‘spiritual intelligence’…

These people are children. Kids are almost the very paragon of spiritual intelligence.

Of course, this doesn’t mean we should all start behaving in infantile ways. However, we can start to look at the world more like children do. We could start to re-invent and re-discover the qualities that we so often lose in the process of what’s called ‘growing up’ and ‘becoming adults’.

Those qualities are:

Being open
Trust
Sincerity
Being genuine
Curiosity
Eager to learn
Generosity
Feeling adventurous
Wonder and astonishment on the least things…
And not to forget: unconditional love.

Let’s face it… People who are living life like this are pleasant company, both to themselves and to others.

Spiritual intelligence has got nothing to do with religion or faith. Of course, both are fine if pursuing them makes you feel good inside, if pursuing them is your own choice if it’s not imposed on you by others.

No, spiritual intelligence is about self-reflection and intuition. There’s a difference between what many consider ‘being spiritual’ and ‘spiritual intelligence’.

You can do reiki, qigong, meditation, burn incense, do rain dances in wildlife outfits all day and read books about ‘spirituality’. And of course that’s all fine if that makes you feel good.

However, ‘spiritual intelligence’ rather refers to making the choices that suit you and actually consciously experiencing and feeling the satisfaction and feeling of fulfillment and self-realization that come with that.

That’s what’ll make you happy.

So what’s potentially the greatest advice of all time?

REMAIN CHILDLIKE.

Be open. Be adventurous. Be curious. Be eager to learn. Be genuine, not least to yourself. Don’t judge. Acknowledge the wonder of life and the amazing experience it brings.

After all, it seems so real, doesn’t it?

In the words of the late comedian Bill Hicks:

“The world is like a ride in an amusement park. And when you choose to go on it, you think it’s real because that’s how powerful our minds are. And the ride goes up and down and round and round. It has thrills and chills and it’s very brightly coloured and it’s very loud and it’s fun, for a while.

Some people have been on the ride for a long time and they begin to question, is this real, or is this just a ride? And other people have remembered, and they come back to us, they say, “Hey – don’t worry, don’t be afraid, ever, because, this is just a ride…”

And we kill those people.

“We have a lot invested in this ride. Shut him up. Look at my furrows of worry. Look at my big bank account and my family. This just has to be real.”

Just a ride… But we always kill those good guys who try and tell us that, you ever notice that? And let the demons run amok.

But it doesn’t matter, because it’s just a ride. And we can change it anytime we want. It’s only a choice. No effort, no work, no job, no savings and money.

A choice, right now, between fear and love.”

So what’s your choice?

Remain childlike. And enjoy the ride!

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Nicholas P. Kidd and Henk J.M. Schram are the instigators of the alleged ‘Great Revolution’, which provides the members with truthful instructions regarding the universal principles of life.

The Revolution is receiving increasingly widespread attention for its straightforward explanations and instructions with regard to complex issues, which are made understandable for people from all walks of life. In essence, the true secrets of the ‘Law of Attraction’ and the other ‘Universal Laws’ are explained in much clearer and practical ways than the ‘enigmas wrapped in riddles’ that usually characterize the descriptions of the Law of Attraction and its application.

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