Comments on: Don’t Fall in Love by Apollo Pampallis

By: Lee-Ann

Lee-Ann — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 14:32:09 +0000

very insightfull …:D

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 18:03:38 +0000

I’ll rephrase….I’m in gratitude for your beautiful wisdom and for co-creating you into my life experience at this time…..

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 03:29:56 +0000

Hi Apollo,

I just love what you wrote to Marc. This is what it’s all about, isn’t it? Being love, vibrating love, connecting with Source in all that is, from moment to moment, as this beautiful feeling and energy called love. I felt that when I read what you wrote. In my life I feel that many of my relationships are changing in form and it’s truly challenging at times. Then I remind myself that we’re each on our own journey here, and to keep being love, no matter what, is the real challenge and test of the soul. Thank you for your beautiful words. They resonated deeply within me, right here and now, and I’m grateful. To love…..

By: Apollo

Apollo — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 10:59:32 +0000

Hi Marc
Its all about being sincerely true to the Now.
Relationships last forever, but its just the nature/form which changes. With awareness the changed form need not be anything less loving…

By: Marc

Marc — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 23:50:19 +0000

Incredibly wise, well-reasoned, and overall excellent article. Why do half of marriages fail, while the other half generally include two unhappy people? Perhaps it is time to do away with the entire institution altogether. There’s just too much social pressure to “find the one.” Consider this article, for example:

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=5986&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=686127

I particularly was intrigued by this quote:

“One romantic night when things were getting steamy, I gently put on the brakes by mouthing the exact words Pat Allen suggested I use: “Is this an exclusive, committed relationship? And are we headed to marriage? I’m not ready to be with you or anyone else until it is.” It wasn’t a threat, so I didn’t say it that way. It was just the truth.”

So… you’re not going to meet another person’s needs, until he meets yours? How is that not coercive, or a threat? Sure… you want security, but how about not forcing a level of commitment which the relationship otherwise does not merit?

I would humbly suggest acting your best, to get the best out of your relationships. Then, if they do not last (as most eventually end), you can part as friends, wishing the other person well on their life journey.

My $0.02, at any rate…

By: John

John — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 09:59:12 +0000

Hi Apollo,
As people have been saying, what a fantastic article. It’s bang on the money for me right now, due to personal circumstances and a gradual awakening to my true self. The information is contradictory to most peoples beliefs and ideals around love, much like the ideals around selfishness and selflessness, but the more we awaken to the responsibility we have to love ourselves and take 100% responsibility for all our thoughts, words, feelings and actions, the sooner we will be ready to join in ‘love’ with other people.

Thanks again,

John.

By: John

John — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 21:46:22 +0000

Wow, I think somebody needs a hug…. My wife and I met, fell in love and I asked her to marry me after only six hours,and that was 33 years ago. We couldn’t be happier. We can be together 24/7 and are each others best friend. Being in love and getting married is the greatest thing that ever happened to us and we have had a life together full of adventures. After having four fantastic children and 2 grandchildren we both still look ten years younger than we are, and I’m sure that that is due to the fact of happiness together. Being with the one you LOVE doubles the happiness of all good things and halves the bad ones. Long Live Love.
Wishing that everyone could be this happy, Luv & Kisses John. BC.

By: Vinas

Vinas — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 18:47:13 +0000

I have read the article and thanks a lot for this valuable information.In my opinion I think that if a person feels ready to handle the intimacy let them do it and if one can handle love let them do it too since this matter of love and relationships is mostly determined by one’s own choice depending on the different circumstances and pathways they face and go through in life.so make your decision wisely and be careful not to ‘fall in love’ but to find peace,happiness and growth in love…thank you all

By: Ana

Ana — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 03:58:06 +0000

Hi, first of all I apologise for any mistake in my writing. English is not my native language.
I must say I do believe that love brings a sense of fulfilment in live and can last very long without “hitting the ground”. We know the process of falling in love, starting in infatuation and ending in attachment. It has been scientifically demonstrated that only few, maybe 10%, keep that sense of infatuation forever. What happen to the other 90% of couples? Some develop a very good friendship and caring relationship together, some can’t manage the relationship and grow apart, some decide to keep the relationship with their dysfunction and others decide to end it.
My opinion about love is that love is born within us. Once we are capable of loving, we’ll be able to have a loving relationship. We are the only ones responsible of our relationship. But what makes it last?
If we have or had a dysfunctional relationship we should start examining ourselves. Why we chose that partner? Why we react in some ways? Have you seen those people who divorce then remarry and have very similar problems with the next couple?
The cases Mr Apollo refers do exist. But also, true and lasting love exists as well. It may depend on our wisdom, knowledge and believes. It’s sad to see that, statistically, failed relationships are more abundant, but that doesn’t make it the rule. In this occidental culture we develop unnecessary intolerance… Most of us don’t know how to be grateful of live… This and more other things bring unhappiness and problematic relationships…
This article has lots of issues that can be discussed separately. Anyway, I just wanted to state the opposite of the title. Please, DO FALL IN LOVE and why not? Get married! It CAN be great! I’ve been there for 20 years.

By: Mallo

Mallo — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 22:55:46 +0000

Possibly the most insightful and mentally awaken feature of what love is and is not. I hope to be ‘in love’ again someday but will be more aware and vigilant of the way it ‘falls’
Thank you Apollo – fantastic article!
Much respect – Mallo