Do you ever have trouble motivating yourself to do the things you KNOW need to get done? Do you ever find yourself forgetting vital bits of information, like the names of people you’ve just met? And do you ever wonder if someone is telling you the truth, or if they may be lying about something?
I know this is going to sound incredible, and you may have a hard time believing it, but quite honestly, all of these situations can be improved when you learn the secrets of NLP.
Before I explain how easily NLP can be used to solve all of the above problems, let’s make sure that everyone reading this understands what we’re talking about. NLP stands for “Neuro-Linguistic Programming”, which is a science originally developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s. As a science, NLP strives to explain, in the most direct way possible, why people do things. As a consequence to this, it also shows us how to accomplish many of the goals we have in normal, everyday life.
At it’s core, NLP helps us to learn how to access “resourceful states” of being, such as heighten memory, creativity, intelligence, and self-confidence. It also helps us to improve our communication with other people, which in turn helps us to be more persuasive. Let’s take a closer look at how we may use NLP to perform various “mind tricks”.
One of the most valuable tools NLP gives us is the ability to access resourceful states of being any time we wish. For instance, when we wish to remember people’s names and faces, we can use NLP to “turn on” our memory so it’s working at full capacity. Or if we’re faced with a serious problem, NLP tools are available to help us stay calm and centered as we elicit an effective “problem solving” resource state. And when we need to project a sense of confidence, NLP gives us the tools we need to adjust our level of confidence as easily as turning a dial.
In fact, there is a single NLP tool which may be used for all of these situations. It’s an advanced topic usually referred to as “anchors”. In NLP terms, an anchor is a word or action which acts as a trigger, activating an associated resource state.
A simple example of this would be when an athlete wears his “lucky shirt” to play well, or when someone puts a 4-leaf clover in their pocket to be more optimistic.
Using anchors to accomplish any goal is a simple 3-step process.
This may actually be the most difficult of the 3 steps, because you want to select a word or action that you can “assign” to be a trigger for the desired resourceful state. Ideally, this will be something that is rarely done outside of the intended situations, but would seem normal and natural within them.
As an example, let’s say that you want to create an anchor which will activate your memory whenever you use it, such as at a party where you’ll meet dozens, or even hundreds of new people. You probably don’t want to create an anchor around the phrase, “be a computer”, although that may be perfectly okay when you want to remember facts and figures when you’re studying alone at home. For a party situation, a more appropriate anchor may be shaking someone’s hand, or even looking at the color of their eyes.
In some case, you may find that you already have usable anchors. For most people, standing up straight and smiling are anchors for confidence. If you notice that you tend to do something whenever you are naturally in the state you want to create an anchor for (confidence, in this case), then that behavior would make a perfect anchor.
This may, at first, SEEM difficult, but it’s actually quite simple. Essentially, all you do is elicit the resource state normally, and then do whatever you choose for your anchor.
Let’s go back to the confidence example here. In this situation, part 1 of this step is to elicit a feeling of confidence within yourself. For most people, the easiest way to do this is to remember a time when you felt very confident. If you can’t remember a time when you were confident, then remember a movie you saw where someone displayed lots of confidence, and pretend you are that person.
What gave you that feeling of confidence? Were you in control, or did you have any special insight into the situation around you? Were you doing something for which you had lots of experience? Did other people express acceptance, appreciation, or other emotion? Recall as much as you can about a situation in which you had lots of confidence.
Personally, one of the best memories to elicit a feeling of confidence would be when I worked as a photographer. I had lots of experience and training, and whenever I “got into the flow” of doing my work, I KNEW what to do every step of the way, and that gave me a solid feeling of confidence. I also had lots of memories of folks expressing appreciation and respect for the results I produced, and that gave me even more confidence. Most people have at least one situation like this in their lives.
If you want to get into really advanced techniques, you could turn your attention onto the feeling itself. Describe it as if it were a physical object. Imagine that you can see it, feel it, hear it, taste it, and smell it. Now, imagine it getting stronger and stronger, and as you do the feeling itself will grow within you.
When you feel the resourceful state very strongly, it’s time to start doing your chosen anchor. By repeating your anchor several times while in the resourceful state, your mind associates the 2 together, just like learning anything else.
Going back to our memory example, if I choose to use an anchor of shaking someone’s hand as an anchor for remembering people’s names, once I put myself into a state where my memory is strong, I would ideally have a friend with me to shake hands with as I focused on the feeling of having a good memory. Otherwise, I’d simply imagine myself shaking someone’s hand.
Actually, with the memory example, since it may be a bit difficult for most people to really get the “feeling” of having a strong memory, it is completely okay to imagine the whole thing — shaking someone’s hand and remembering their name. As they say, our inner minds cannot really tell the difference between a real event and one vividly imagined.
The more you repeat your anchor while in the desired resourceful state, the stronger it will become, and the better it will work when you need it.
Now that you have created an anchor, the only thing left to do is to use it. In the case of remembering people’s names at a party, just realize that as you shake each person’s hand, your mind will automatically turn on your memory and store their name for easier recall.
If you created an anchor of saying the word, “Yes!” (with great enthusiasm) to elicit the resourceful state of confidence, then say it when you need a quick confidence boost.
As with anything else, your anchor will get stronger the more you use it, and you may want to go through the creation process periodically to further improve it.
Obviously, this article covers only a small part of what NLP can do for you. I have 2 resources to recommend to you for further study. The first is a book you can probably find on Amazon.com or at your local bookstore. It’s called, “Introducing NLP” and it was written by Joseph O’Connor & John Seymour.
The other resource is one that focuses on the persuasion aspect of NLP. It’s called, “Keys To Power Persuasion“, and I am it’s author. You can find this resource at my main website, http://www.PowerKeysPub.com. My Choose To Believe material focuses on how to use NLP to accomplish any other goal you may have.
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